Am i wrong or do i need help?

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Well I've been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years and we have a baby about to be 1. Well we have had a crazy relationship. A month ago I left because we got in to a big argument about a stupid stuff. So I left to my parents house they live like an hour and half away so its pretty far. So when I was living at my parents house which was for a week. I felt so sad I couldn't function at all I couldn't eat or do anything everything reminded me of him. He came to see me on that Friday to say sorry and I went back to live with him next day. Well since I went back to live with him .I haven't been myself at all first of all I lost my job which I regret leaving so I'm unemployed. So now my boyfriend found a job that is like 40 min away plus traffic so it's like an hour. And plus is overnight. So now I'm like always depressed because his shift starts from 730-430am so I'm like sad all the time . just thinking what am I gonna do . even now I get scared when he just leaves my sight. I feel like if I can't let go. By the way before this job he didn't had a job he was self employed and I was the one who had a job in the mornings. And now me just thinking of what am I gonna do in that time when he's gone since he's leaving to work at 4:00 and coming back at 4 next day. I don't have family here just him and his family but I'm not that close to them .so I can't express my feelings to them..I told him if I can go with him and sleep in his car. But he says I'm insecure . but is not that . I just feel a lone and he gets mad .

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  • Karmasbitch
    9 years ago

    You need to find constructive hobbies or a job maybe even volunteer work, depending on whether or not you want to be a stay at home mum or not.

    If staying home with the baby is your plan, find a productive hobby or interest to take your mind off of your boyfriend while he's gone.
    Thinking about him is great, but dependence on anything but a healthy mind, is unhealthy.

    Not only is it stressing you out, your baby feels the stress in the air, and your boyfriend doesn't need the added stress of working so much and holding an entire family together, try to take the load off both of you.

    Babies are a lot to handle no doubt. But give the attention to your baby that the baby need s, so he/she will sleep soundly knowing they got their time with mum.

    Now that the baby is down for a nap, find something quiet but constructive to do.
    Make things and put them on 'Etsy' or some other internet site along those lines.

    You could clean the house make it look nice and comfortable for your boyfriend to come home to.

    Start taking photos of things, learning something you have always wanted to learn, like the piano or your heritage.

    Just make your time worth living, don't go one day without accomplishment. Even if its cleaning the shower or drawing an awesome picture.

    Good luck (:

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  • acidlor
    9 years ago

    I would suggest maybe seeing a counselor. It doesn't mean that you're mental or whatever, it just sometimes helps to have someone outside of the family that you can vent to. They can teach you coping mechanisms and get you in touch with the right people. They even have the resources to get you into different support groups.

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  • gashlover
    9 years ago

    Join a gym tbat has child care like 24 hr fitness

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  • LyeByMistake
    9 years ago

    Yup this is why everbody tries to avoids the 9-5

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  • achely011
    9 years ago

    YMy baby is about to be 1 yr old. And well since I got here from my parents house . he would just bring anything so we can argue and he even brings up the past and he even told me to leave to my parents house. If I cry in front of him he would tell me don't cry see I told u to stay with your parents .he doesn't even try to console me. Last night we got into an argument because I said I wanted to go to Ross and he said no and he thought I got mad which I didn't and then he made it into a big thing and he started to tell me I don't want to be with u is not the same. And then I was crying because that's not the first time he tells me that and then says he's sorry. But last night I told him okay I'm leaving but just rememeber that I told u wanted to be with you and make things work and u didn't.

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  • KeepsakeDoll
    9 years ago

    I just assumed you're either depressed or suffering from that new baby syndrome. I can't remember the proper name, though.

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