Am i wasting my time?

Communication is key

Maybe it's just become your routine in the relationship that you are the one who initiates. The secret of a good relationship is not to drop it at the first sign of trouble, but to adapt it to minimise trouble.

Let her know how you feel, and then you two mix it up a bit.

Sooo when she does want it you punish her? You're exacerbating the problem and only punishing yourself.

perhap she doesnt want to have sex because she wants to keep it for the right time even though she already gave it up...girls sometimes lose their virginity and have sex but later feel they lost it at the right time and dont want to carry anymore regrets hence they try to stop but eventually give in because their bf are constantly nagging for it...perhaps she feels more used for it than respected? try to view things on a more positive note rather than her not being attracted to having sex with you. communication is what you two need

I use to have a similar problem and it took many late night conversations to work through it. I never needed to be the initiator and got use to not doing it. And when I did, I would get teased for it, then I would feel self conscious about it and never do it. This created a viscous cycle. It took me time and an understanding lover to help me become comfortable with my own sexuality. If I"m not pulling my weight around the bedroom, he asks me for it. This can be tricky but if you are meant to be, you'll figure it out.

my girl does the same thing it annoies me

I think she's the type that needs a guy who doesnt wait in her hand and foot. Thats how i am. If a man goes overboard I often start to feel like he's weak, and thats makes me unattracted to him. So maybe just back off a little and she'll come around.

You should just talk to her about it. Girls can be oblivious sometimes, just like guys, if she isn't thinking about it all the time. Just let her know where you're coming from.

"Shouldn't women take care of their man so they don't run off? "

If you just need sex so you don't "run off" then it is not a good relationship and I hope she ends it.

If you're thinking of running off then you're not with the right girl

Unfortunately some people are just not sexual. Some women never want sex for pleasure, they only do it to keep the guys happy. After being together awhile and fighting about it they stop doing that. Some women only need sex on an emotional level, not physical. The more you fight the less she wants sex. Believe me I know, it's a drag. I have been with women who could go without forever, the only reason they had sex at all was as a favor to you when you were getting along. All I can tell you, most likely she will never change, things will most likely only get worse.

approach her and ask her 'wanna make out?' if she says yes then enjoy but if she says no ,abuse her and walk away.No time is wasted this way

I thank everyone for their comments and suggestions. I may have gone overboard with the "shouldnt women take care of their men' I took a step back and stopped bringing it up and it actually worked itself out. I was actually unemployed for a while and always home so this affected things.

Im 27 and mtmtitman420 appears to be a 14 year old child. If we all took your advice we would all be single and never meet any decent women. I would appreciate you not referring to my girlfriend as a bitch, maybe you can be kicked off this site.hopefully. Thanks again to most of you guys and take care

i was in the same situation. just start pissing her off to the point that she dumps u and go find a better bitch. but for now have lots of sex with her and eat her pussy out and have as much sex as u can . also shes probly cheating on u. fuck the bitch and i mean that in both ways