Am i unfair?

Wow, randomly found this posting while checking out this site after a friend showed it to me...some funny stuff on here but as for your post, I feel oddly compelled enough to actually sign up for an account just so I could comment...seems ill need to split it into a number of comments...so sorry for that....

Truth is, I actually had a thing with a girl last year who did the exact same thing you say you do, that is, make every guy pull out before cumming, even if we were using a condom (we at times neglected condom use). It was the first time anyone ever told me I had to do that (and i did not know until i actually came for the first time...awkward moment, lol). I'm going to give it to you plain as day...it is your body...100%....you get to make the decisions about what happens to your body...nobody else. If it is something you feel strongly about then you have every right to do it. Shame on anyone who says you are not normal for being the boss of your own body...especially your friends....absolute shame on them. The girl I was with and I had absolutely fabulous sex, like out of this world times....adventurous to the max....never, not once did not being able to "cum inside her" effect even the slightest ounce of pleasure I had (I actually now do this with the girl I am seeing, as i do feel it reduces the risk...and again...i still have incredible orgasms). An orgasm is an orgasm whether the penis is still inside a girl or not....and well, with my experience, maybe I am just lucky, but, it actually made for some pretty hot finishes so if you are any bit like the girl who made me pull out then i would hope there is 0 complaints coming from your fiance cause he is a lucky guy. Regardless of whether you are adventurous like that, it is ridiculous to think you could get flack for that. If you are engaged to him, I would hope that he has been very understanding of this issue....because if he cares about you enough to propose then he should respect you 1000% on this topic as respect is one of the foundations of marriage. I assure you, you are not depriving him of anything if he is finishing outside of you. If it reduces the stress of "accidental pregnancy" then that will help make the sex better for both of you. You have a whole lifetime together when you're married for him to finish inside you.

Yeah, double bagging increases friction, means the condom is more likely to break.

...Now, what "brothershamass" says is true....if you are having unprotected sex, but just pulling out before hand, that is not going to reduce anything as sperm comes out before hand, not just during orgasm (me and this girl had a scare, so i know first hand...and in reality, the stress was always there anytime we did it without a condom, sometimes it is easy to get to into it to think smart)...so to actually be safe, you need to make sure he is wearing a condom during sex (the whole time he is inside you!)....and yes you have the right to demand he use a condom!!!! (another one of those things guys try and pressure girls about it seems)...p.s. double bagging it will actually increase the chance of condom failure so don't take that advice....

Anyways, I hope this comment has helped.....don't ever let people change you. Your body is your body, you get to make the rules and that is perfectly normal!!

I hope this answer finds you well.

I think the guys are shooting their loads over her belly/tits/face, she's not actually stopping them full stop. She just doesn't want their muck inside her.

That's fair enough, but you can still get pregnent this way, because some spunk will always come out of the end of the cock prior to the actual "big event", so you need to get on the pill or use this some other sort of protection.

my friend did this once with a guy and when she told us we all thought it was the funniest thing ever

yeah thats unfair lol

at least finish them off with a handjob or blowjob

on the other hand, im kindof impressed that you get away with it

You're crazy. You're engaged to the guy so yes, it's unfair. Get on the pill and let the poor guy cum the right way

If your fear is strictly of pregnancy then get the guy to "double bag" and then also take precautions yourself. It sounds like it's a bit more psychological than that, though.