Am i turning into a lesbian?? help !

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I used to always develop crushes on guys. As I got older I found my head swinging more and more to the females on the side walk. I check attractive females out all the time more so than I do guys...I feel like I'm thinking like a guy too at times like "wow she's hot"! I don't like the idea of doing sexual things with a girl though, just stuff like hugging and making out. I feel like I have over the past few years developed girly crushes as I find some of my friends cute or adorable. I don't know if I'd enjoy it either because I'm border line asexual. Am I bi? I'm quite confused.

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    Don't worry about it and don't put labels on yourself

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  • Terence_the_viking
    8 years ago

    Maybe it's an emotional connection as opposed to a sexual connection.

    Perry Katy kissed a girl and she liked it.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Yes I would agree with you on that, is Katy Perry bi ?

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      • mysistersshadow
        8 years ago

        Opinions vary on that 1. Interviews she gave at the time of that song indicated that she just made it all up and the LBGT community felt very uncomfortable and used by her. Since shes said yea it actually happened... once. Doesn't sound very bi to me especially since the once was well over 10 years ago. So if I drank a whole 1.5L bottle of vodka in one night 10 years ago does that make me a alcoholic today?

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          8 years ago

          Ah interesting! I see your point and it makes sense ! Great perspective :)

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          • mysistersshadow
            8 years ago

            I'm pretty sure I am an alcoholic today tho becos I did drink that vodka and I haven't taken to many breaks from liquor since. I killed the better part of a 5th of whiskey tonight. Whiskey is my current go to drink. I also popped 3 oxys and 2 vitamin X's. Laid off the weed and speed tonight though so I had a little more focus.

            I'm also sure I'm bisexual not just bifriendly which it sounds like may be more your thing. Theres nothing at all about where you are on the spectrum its just important to be honest with a partner. Some girls are looking for relationships and kinda expect more than kissing etc.

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  • Tealights
    8 years ago

    It really sounds like you're just bi-curious and may need a trusted friend to experiment with, but not necessarily get into a serious lesbian relationship.

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  • mysistersshadow
    8 years ago

    Heres 1 answer
    If the thoughts aren't sexual your not a lesbian or bisexual your just admiring the beautiful things around you. If I see a particularly enchanting orchid I admire it I don't get the urge to put it in my vagina therefore my unsexual admiration doesn't have anything to do with my actual sexuality. So no your not turning into a lesbian.

    Heres another
    Oh your that girl. You say your good with kissing and making out but do you let your partner know early on that your just a tourist? If you don't maybe you could just go back to being straight?

    Which one do you like better?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Nice explanation thank you :)
      How do you mean letting my partner know that I'm just a tourist? Is this a saying? I also don't have a partner...

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      • mysistersshadow
        8 years ago

        Unless your kissing and making out with your self theres a partner thats what I mean. And a tourist is just that someone just looking around a new place or only there for the fun stuff. Its awkward and annoying when you finish doing oral and your partner is like oh that was great thanks and doesn't reciprocate becos they just aren't that bi.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          8 years ago

          I think I get what you mean...
          I Know what a tourist is but I wasn't sure what you meant in that context re sexuality...I think you're saying or asking if I'm "just a tourist"? In the way that I would enjoy kissing a girl but I wouldn't go as far as reciporocating anything sexual back because I'm not that bi and am just doing it for fun?

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          • mysistersshadow
            8 years ago

            I'm saying it sounds like your just there for what it can do for you. Or maybe this will put it in a better frame of reference you sound like the guy that gets a blowjob and then pats the girl on the head and say thanks babe and rolls over and goes to sleep.

            However if your upfront about your limits there really isn't a problem others will decide what they want to do based on that information.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              8 years ago

              Ahh I see what you mean now! Thanks heaps for bearing with me and explaining it differently ! :)
              Well I wouldn't wanna be that guy if u know what I mean lol. If I was in a loving relationship with a girl , I would want to please her however, I would probably find certain things difficult to do eg- going down on a girl, I really can't imagine I'd ever be able to do that. I wouldn't expect her to do it either if she felt the same.

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  • Berenice66
    8 years ago

    I think I'm bisexual, and I discovered I was because I met a girl who I fancied and then we made out and shared lots of things together and it felt like any other relationship. I guess you have to wait and experiment.

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