Am i too reserved?

I don't think you should drink to become social. I think you should face your fears, and go out there and do it if you really wanted it. I'm very reserved, myself, and extremely introverted. I've always been uncomfortable talking to other people but, one day, I decided I wanted to open up more and meet new people, so I faced my fears and did it. What's the worst they can do to you?

Don't worry about the long post. Long posts are good so long as you use paragraphs, which you have.

Personal morals like the sort you have are only worth holding onto if they make your life better. If they're not making your life better, you should cast them off. You are your own person, and that means what other people teach you might not work for you. You have to make up your own teachings about how to be happy.

Pursuing girls to make you feel more like a man is the easy, temporary way out of insecurity. Even if it stops you feeling pathetic, you're still giving control of your self-esteem to other people instead of controlling it yourself. When you're pursuing a relationship or sex in order to boost your self-esteem it often manifests as desperation or egocentricity, which puts girls off.

Drinking can help you explore what you can get away with socially. Staying reserved stops you from exploring the unwritten rules of the social world. Alcohol can help you explore those rules by lowering your inhibitions, but make sure you don't become dependent on it to socialize.

why wasn't the table speaking?
he was reserved.

I don't think this is so much of a "morals" issue as it is a "moving out of your comfort zone" issue. You shouldn't have to drink or have sex or whatever just to fit in. But then again if you want to do those things, then you absolutely should.

I will caution you though not to get overly optimistic about improving your social life like this though. There's no magic bullet. I will tell you from experience that going out to parties and getting drunk isn't suddenly going to make you Mr. Popular and one of the guys. If there are other issues impeding your social life then this isn't going to correct them.

I really think that it's important to stick to your morals and follow your own values; however I also think that it's really important to try new things and go out of your comfort zone.
I am super reserved as well, and I have social anxiety. However I crave social interaction and I really like going to parties and drinking because it makes me a lot more comfortable interacting with people, so this can be a really good thing, in moderation of course.

I don't see much of a point in abstaining from premarital sex and alcohol just for the sake of morals, in this case, but that's probably because I haven't held such morals in high esteem in my own life. You're welcome to point it out, though, and you're welcome to feel that following such morals is important.

I can come up with reasons not to drink. Of course, drinking excessively can lead to bad physical health and embarrassing situations. Other than that, using drinking to drunkenness as a socializing tool can a problem, if you become dependant on, as dom180 has already stated.

Avoid ending up with separate worlds for drunk/drinking and sober. I remember, how, at university, there was guy whom I didn't talk to when sober but greeted when drunk.

If you want to, then try getting a bit drunk, preferably you'll have a couple of friends there to help you if you drink too much. See, if it works for you or not, perhaps you can use it as an ice breaker.

Overall, don't worry too much about the drinking part. Instead, work on the talking to people you like-part.

Sure, just don't get so drunk that you turn into a man-whore :P

you are a rare person...dont become like all other people, you will regret it.

I think you should have a couple of brews right before you go somewhere where you will want to be social. Just don't get too drunk.

DON'T drink more to become the 'social butterfly'....doing that is only going to make you forget the experience and probably not end well either.

Just realize that its totally okay to be more introvert!!! Try to step out of your comfort zone more and talk to people around you.

But please, drinking is NOT the answer!!!!!

Don't rely on alcohol to lower your inhibitions. Your liver will thank you for it.

you wont fail you'll meet the same as you

I'm not against you trying to become more sociable, but against the way you want to do it. I don't believe that getting yourself drunk will be the "first step" in letting you break free of your comfort zone, but rather you should lose try losing some of your inhibitions with your personal perseverance (because 1) you might do something stupid and regrettable while drunk and 2) you might use drunkenness as a crutch that won't really help your sober self). Having morals isn't a bad thing, and I don't believe that it is your morals, but just shyness, that limits your social potentials.

Also, I dislike the idea that 'Things will fall into place'. They might, but it may also happen that, 5-10 years later, you'll have experienced just as much with the opposite sex and not have lost much of your insecurities around women.