Am i te only one

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Hello here's my issues I been married to my husband over a year now . I love him with all my heart and he's my world. But the thing is I feel like I'm doing everything. I work full time and come home n clean cook laundry and a full time mom and I make enough time for him for anything he wants sex ext .. even tho I'm so exhausted mostly everyday . He doesn't help me out with anything he just says he's tired n lays down . Even when I'm so exhausted and all I want to do is take a nap he messes with me and try to have sex with me n when I finally tell him I'm going to sleep my son wakes up instead of him going to him since hea obviously awake he rolls over and he takes a nap instead while I'm still up exhausted.. my issue is I feel like I married a kid.! I feel like if I knew how my life was ganna turn out I would of never married. Don't get me wrong I love him deeply but all I keep thinking I'm doing everything by myself why should I take care of a grown ass man too. Let me add he does work 12 shifts and he gets his two days off even those days he won't pick up or son early and I have to rush across town everyday to get him. I don't believe in divorce but this is not how I want it to be I have told him he changes foe a week n then same thing. Is this only me that maybe I'm overreacting (which he tells me this all the time) is this a women thing.?advice anyone ???

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  • you_go_glen_coco
    7 years ago

    Most of us don't speak English as our first language. It is fucking hard to manoeuvre through all that shit without punctuation and sentence structure.
    I could've helped you but I don't know what the fuck you want.

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    • _Mehhhh_
      7 years ago

      English IS my first language and even I struggled, I fully agree with you.

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  • Adopt-a-thot
    7 years ago

    Hire a male nanny after getting him background checked ofc.

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    I'm curious as to what kinda work he does that he thinks his behavior is appropriate? I will say that 12 hour shifts sound quite gruelling. Try to talk to him and I suggest some couples counseling. It would be one thing if you were a full-time stay at home mom, but if you're working full-time he needs to pitch in on the housework and childcare. If he's not willing to go to couples counseling then maybe you can go on your own.

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    • Thischickhere23
      7 years ago

      He works outside doing things like talking to customs about what's wrong with cars. I tried last night but I just got upset bec he keeps telling me he works he's tired and he does help .. how do u make someone agree to counseling if he doesn't think anything wrong.? I believe I work just as hard as he does and there are times I have to work 12 hour shifts and still come home and have to deal with everything all by myself while he takes a nap. It's getting to a point where I'm feeling exhausted and alone I didn't think my marriage will affect like it is now. I don't know what to do I'm running out of options .

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      • RoseIsabella
        7 years ago

        Well, unfortunately you can't force him to go to counseling or realize that he needs to do more. You can, however, take care of yourself by going to counseling on your own.

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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago

    If you lie down like a doormat that's how you'll be treated. So he has two days off: when do YOU get a day off?

    He's not going to change, why would he give up a servant/wife/mother/lover who also works full time? It's impossible for you to continue as you are: you will become exhausted and ill.

    You need to get some supportive counselling to get up the courage to stop doing so much for him. However, I warn you the consequences may not be pretty: he's not going to give up all his privileges without a struggle.

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    • Thischickhere23
      7 years ago

      My days off is Saturday and I get off early on Sunday. I asked to go to counselling but he keeps telling me I'm overreacting or over thinking of it ..

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  • Rihyae
    7 years ago

    I would go to marriage counseling, and if he doesn't keep it up longer than a week then get a divorce...

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  • IIN1234
    7 years ago

    okay. 2 things:
    1. SO MANY FATHERS ARE LIKE THAT
    2. Men who act like that don't change

    That's it.

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