Am i stupid or shy?

Well, i don't know what to say but i feel i'm a shy person. I think i do not have the ability to deal with girls. I feel like i'm bound when i'm talking to them. And an experience i hate the most is that once i was attracted to some one and i felt she was too, so i could not even say a straight word to her to tell her how much i'll be delighted if we become good friends and get to know each other better. Is this normal or sick?

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86% Normal
Based on 56 votes (48 yes)
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  • oxenstierna

    I'd say a majority of people live with some degree of situational shyness, communicating your feelings to a member of the opposite sex (or of the same sex if that's your preference) is probably the most common one. It's not a skill you're born with so you simply have to learn by trial-and-error.

    - What's the worst thing that can happen?

    You stutter? You don't know what to say? There's some awkward silence? You get rejected?

    Well at least then you'll know for sure if your feelings are answered. If they're not, you've learned something and you'll do better next time.

    It's like the saying goes: "The only things you will regret are the things you didn't do'". Something like that anyway, and it's painfully true.

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  • your fine you just need to open up a bit more

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  • manjil62

    Its fine but you need to develop courage to say your peace. Perhaps you need to start believing in yourself. To do that you need to be sure about if what you are thinking is right. Once you get to hear yes from self then dont stop your self from opening up. Initially express less intense feelings about girls then you will get bolder

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  • 007phantom

    I had the exact same problem I don't have a problem talking to regular girls but when I see a girl I'm attracted to I can't find anything to say, its normal, you get better over time and with practice.

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  • Heybroyodogsupman

    I'm not a nerd, I have friends, am very good at soccer and track and am not ugly yet I have very hard times sparking conversations with girls. I think it is normal and with time it will probably become less of a problem.

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  • Confusedgirl

    Aww i think its cute. Its very hard to get the nerve to talk to a girl. And at first when your shy it might come of cute, or a little funny. But you will get use to it, youll have to girls like an unexperienced guy but if he doesnt attempt to make his move we will move on. Just take a chance & try it talking to other girls or even just girls that are friends, eventually youll get the hang out it just hurry up before you stay to inclosed to your self.

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  • roadrunnerxo

    this is normal. dont let go. things are easier when done slow in my opinion. i think its cute. you cant pour water over your head all at once and call it sexy haha, slow motions the way to go!!! :)

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  • I'm a girl, and most of the time it seems like guys are the more confident gender! so believe in yourself more, because we are just as nervous as you are

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  • KurtAmbrose

    hey i know what you are going through. i like a girl and i know she likes me so i realy can't talk to her. so it's a shy proplem.

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  • well i had a lot!!of girls that liked me not to be a show off...but..i usually liked that girl back but i was to shy or nervous to tell...i gess i was afraid wat plp think untill i finally asked this girl out and once u ask a girl out u get more confidence to ask other people out or to tell someone u like them..like when plp rob banks,if they get away wit it and then do it again and again cuz they gain confidence of not gettin caught...dont ask how i know tht and im not dr.phil hes dumb

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  • DarkCloud

    thats the same as me but,
    i had a best mate and i liked her but i never told her i just could not!

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  • whatever1234567

    lots of people are shy. Maybe try finding a girl who is shy and gets it. or just put you self out there if you really like someone. I have had that too, where i can't find the words in the moment, on the spot, it happens.

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  • rwtf259

    its perfectly normal. your just socially akward with girls. you just need to losen up. try and get to know them. treat them like girls should be treated make sure you know how you actually feel about this girl.show her your a good guy.

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  • NotSoNormalme

    this is completely normal the same thing happened to me. my friend told me she wanted to go out with me, i said yes then at lunch i completely froze up turning red when people made fun of me. but, i liked her a lot. she also turned red.
    long story short, she broke up with me

    but yes its normal

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  • iwondered

    its normal. you just need to loosen up some, thats all.

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  • maligium

    go for it.you are growing up.

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  • lbgirl768

    Alot of people act shy nowadays. You are not the only one. People actually consider shy people to be nice.

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  • riceboy

    Grow some man hairs and ask her out :D

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  • beasttracker

    no thats fine lot's of people are like that.

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  • gunstarbob

    Yeah its pretty normal, alot of people are shy but once you over come it youll realize most of your fears are rediculous. Girls arent just gonna "reject" You for no reason. they are obsessed with being nice to people, if you talk to a girl watch! She will be all over you if your nice to her. Dont worry about it

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  • fatmanph

    Right, I got the same problem. I wont make the move because of the fear and the possible rejection, but the only person to blame is yourself. You must brake out of your fear and your state of mine.

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  • emo_rock_music

    thats normal you just need a few more girl mates or a confidence boost =)

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  • lololol

    i got that prob too...wich is kinda weird seein that im not realy a nerd

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  • cpg123

    no its fine it just means u have a hard time telling girls how u feel about them

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