Am i strange for not having a boyfriened ?

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Hi I am a 20-year-old girl who has never had a boyfriend, never dated and has no actually experience with the opposite sex. I lost my virginity when 18 and drunk on holiday with friends. I felt disgusted and humiliated by myself for that and wish I had waited till I meet the right person to experience sex with, because of this I am so scared of what my future holds. I don’t want to be alone and have cats and not have children. This is even more because my friends have all had fruitful sex lives and had multiple boyfriends, when we go out no one seems to notice me however all my friends always seem to get the attention and (Pull) where I’m left standing there like a spare part.

I am now focused on my education and finish my degree and creating a good life for myself.

I am not particularly ugly or fat I’m only a size 10 and not fully comfortable with my sexuality. Throughout school I was bullied and did not fit in and had no friends and never experienced the same things has everyone else. Am I now to late is this what my life has in store for me? I just feel that men are repulsed by me and I don’t know why. I do not dress overtly sexual or procatly. I value my dignity and myself and do not want to give out to just anyone I want someone who respect me and is old fashioned. Do you have any advice for this lonely girl?

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  • anya07
    13 years ago

    You know its even good that you are not like other girls.Every one should have a personality her own personality.dont blame you for not being like others it doesnt mean you are abnormal.You just pay too much attention to that you are always pesimistic about it thats why you dont succeed.Dressing sexualy doesnt matter.I feel disgust when i see girls who show their bodies every time.Just relax and when you go somewhere dont concetrate on that

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  • katiebrandx303
    13 years ago

    oh honey, dont worry about it :) i was bullied through school but i promise you'll find the right guy. there's literally billions of fish in the sea and did you know that for every girl there are 20 men? you have a wide variety to choose from.
    I'v seen some butt ugly people get married and find love. Im sure there's nothing wrong with you. Just believe in yourself and socialize :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    You are still pretty young and a most people your age have yet to have the kind of mature relationship you are seeking. These friend you describe as having friutfull sex lives have only just tumbled out of adolescence into young adulthood themselves - just like you. I think you are exaggerating the significance of their prowess & accomplishments - & at the expense of your own self esteem.

    So you - like most/many - have had bumps on the way: the bullying, sexual embarrassments, feeling left out or passed over. Really a lot of that's just growing up.

    You are now a young woman with a young woman's aspirations. Not a teenager. Brush off the past as just experience. You are attaching way too much significance to it. Let it go.

    Hold your head up & Mr Right will come along.

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    • iintolovethissite
      12 years ago

      very insightful

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  • oogliebooglie
    14 years ago

    Well it's hard to say why you don't have bf when I don't know you. Why don't you discuss this with your friends? Try and push yourself out of your comfort zone and invite guys you find interesting out on dates. Going on a date is the best way to see if the two of you click. Don't pick up guys at clubs. Ask your friends if they know anyone who's single and decent that you could go on a blind date with. You need to show people that you're available. Flirt Flirt Flirt and shamelessly!

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  • normalisoverrated
    14 years ago

    what is a boy 'friened'?

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    • rose500
      14 years ago

      What do you mean ?

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  • cooldavid
    14 years ago

    If you're shy but want to get noticed, you have to find your style... maybe put on some fun, flirty clothes, go a little more goth/punk. Don't be afraid to outdo your friends with something tight.

    By dressing creatively and boldly, you'll be noticed more by men and women. It will help with confidence and guys will approach a confident girl who is standing on her own.

    The other consideration is that maybe where you are going out really isn't your scene... maybe you rather pick up guys in a library, activity club, or online.

    If you want something more specific lets see a pic :-)

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  • syruppp
    13 years ago

    you lost your virginity when you were drunk wow what a horrible experience, life going to suck for you and you should have waited for the right person you should be ashamed !

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    • iintolovethissite
      12 years ago

      lol syrrup thats not nice shes uglly i bet hed down a 1.5L bourbon >.< and hit the mingaz and just took what he could, no wonder shes ashamed >.< he got crunked up fcuk and she got a horible horible ugly first time,

      and yes its normal love, ur freinds have probly had a few screws with boys that only just learnt where to put it dont worry you have a full life ahead of urself and...if all else fails buy 15 cats and be a crazy cat lady :)

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