Am i still good?

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Hi, ya'll. I'm a shy introverted guy in his late 20's.

A lady I fancy, who I met a week ago at work and seems to be compatible, asked me to just type what I wanted to say to her, and not try to hint things when we texted each other. And so I asked her to meet up the next evening. She said when. I told her the time. She said yes.

I know that as a man I need to be more assertive and be a go getter, but my shyness and introversion is really weighing on me. I was even surprised when she said yes, cause I felt like I totally turned her off, sorta, acting so indirect. Especially when throughout the week we've known each other I wasn't a great speaker when we weren't alone at work. I did show interest, it's just that I don't talk much when there are too many people around. God, I even tried flirting and I got no game. A mutual friend even told me I need to wake up and act after they apparently talked about me.

So what do you think, guys. Am I still good, if she still wants to meet up after all that? I mean, why would she?

Thanks.

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  • jethro
    5 years ago

    Try giving up on the texting and actually talk to her. Use the frigging phone for what it was intended for. Sooner or later you will have to resort to an actual conversation with her. Shy or not. If you tell her you are shy she should understand and you will get better once you get accustomed to being with her.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      We do talk. We even both agree that texting is tedious and time wasting when you can say it in a conversation. The problem is that I'm quiet when there are others around, and I'm worried she might not like it.

      She knows I'm shy and slow to open up, we actually mentioned that in a conversation we had. I even told her once that I don't usually ask for a girl's number (she's the first girl I ever asked, but I didn't say that, ofc).

      She still wants to meet up, so I'm just gonna be me. Hope it works out.

      Thanks.

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      • Ellenna
        5 years ago

        It sounds as if she's ok with you being shy, lots of girls and women prefer shy men to aggressive ones.

        Meet up and yeah, just by yourself and I hope it works out too.

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  • pleaseleaveme
    5 years ago

    I think you definitely shouldn't try to be something you aren't. And if a shy guy is a turn off for her (which i doubt) maybe you could rely on other qualities you have, like you could try to make her laugh.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      It's easier when we're alone. And you're right, I should just be myself.

      Thanks.

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    Follow her lead, some women like shy guys.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      We were suppose to meet up last evening, but she canceled. She texted me saying she didn't know how to tell me in a conversation, but she's not ready for a relationship right now.

      I'm a bit bummed cause I felt we were connecting, which isn't easy for me in the first place, but ofc, I can't force it. If she liked me she would've given it a shot either way, just as I tried.

      Thanks for your input.

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      • RoseIsabella
        5 years ago

        You're most welcome, sugar. Hang in there. She's not the only fish in the ocean.

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      • Ellenna
        5 years ago

        Ok, good on you for trying. If you didn't bring up anything about a relationship and it was only supposed to be a meetup, it's possible she's shy too?

        You could respond in a low key way that you're not ready for a relationship yet either, you only wanted to meet up with her.

        If she doesn't respond to that, she has issues which have nothing whatsoever to do with you and your shyness.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          5 years ago

          She knew what I wanted. Perhaps I did something along the way to make her less interested, idk. But yeah, I'm glad I got out of my comfort zone and actually pursued someone I was interested in. Something I never did.

          Thanks.

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          • Ellenna
            5 years ago

            And it'll be easier the next time you're interested in someone: don't let this one incident discourage you

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              5 years ago

              I'll try my best, thanks.

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