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Sometimes I can be very very mean. But it not my fault. People around me that make me like this. Before I turn to this, I used to be very sociable but people around me is very mean to me! Thats why I'm also mean to them! Thats their fault not me. Right?
Unfortunately, you're far from unique in failing to understand personal responsibility, but nobody can make you feel a certain way and respond in a certain way. You have chosen to respond in the way you have.
If someone treats you disrespectfully or cruelly, you can:
1) Cry
3) Shrug, walk away, and ignore whatever they say from then on
4) Ask them why they're being unpleasant
5) Calmly point out why the things they're saying are incorrect
6) Be verbally nasty right back
7) Hit them
8) Slash their throat
9) Hang yourself
10) Beat up someone else so you feel powerful
etc, etc, etc.
If you truly believe others make you do the things you do, then you must believe you are powerless to control your own behaviour and you are a mere puppet under the control of others.
In fact, there are very few situations when we don't have any choice about how we respond to the actions of others.
Newton's third law is: For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.
Stop using other people's behavior as an excuse for being nasty: it's your choice how you behave