Am i overthinking his attention?

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These past few days I’ve been at Disneyland for a school trip. I had been talking to this guy 2 years ahead of me for a few weeks, and he was also going (let’s call him Jack). Jack is very goody-goody, talented and chilled out. He’s a straight A student who has never touched any drug or any alcohol. I thought he was cool and innocent enough until the first day on the trip. I remember Jack taking a selfie with his friend, who made some comment about how the person he was gonna send it to wants to suck his dick since she replies pretty well, which Jack laughed and agreed with. I turned out to be the person he sent the picture to. Later in a line queue, in an uncomfortable turn of events, I know for a fact that I felt a hand go fully on my ass and squeeze it. I turned and the only person behind me was Jack, who just said “Sorry, bumped into you”. I was kind of shaken up a little after this since it was completely non consensual and unwanted, and it felt wrong since nobody else saw it so it was clearly just for his pleasure. The next day at breakfast, Jack was unashamedly ogling me after making eye contact, and was trying to get as close as possible to me whenever I was alone. I don’t know what caused this switch, why me, and if I’m overthinking it by worrying so much about it.

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  • shuggy-chan
    4 years ago

    Geez he sounds like a real catch...smh

    You don’t need “drug or alcohol” to be an asshole.

    Also i know guys can get into “locker room talk” were they say dumb shit.

    Especially when they are younger and more immature, i have said plenty of shit that would make me cringe now.

    But if he is grabbing you and blatantly ogling you, he doesn’t sound mature enough to respect you and will probably just waste your time.

    Probably just thinks you (and a few other girl he has similar relationship with) are likely candidates to get his dick wet and is playing the odds.

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    • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth
      4 years ago

      Hes straight As and doesnt do drugs. He's probably going places in life.

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  • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth
    4 years ago

    It sounds like he likes you. How old are yall?

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  • SwickDinging
    4 years ago

    He sounds like a complete dickhead. He had no right to grab your ass, that's disgusting. Call him out on it. If he does anything like that again please tell a teacher.

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    • WeirdDudeFromTheSouth
      4 years ago

      Dont you kind of have to cross the line abit to get laid? Asking a girl nicely for sex is just gonna turn her off. You have to make a move and sweep her off her feet. You cant be like "Will you have sex with me plz". I've grabbed a girls ass before when I was hugging her goodbye and she was surprised asked me every time she saw me "why did you grab my ass" she was sending me facebook messages and it had me all in her head it was obvious she wanted it. Never smashed her tho unfortunately. But I also would go for a kiss on a girl I liked. Going for a kiss can be crossing the line too. My point is how do we get laid if we dont cross the line abit and make a move? Maybe it will come off wrong but she can just say no.

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      • SwickDinging
        4 years ago

        But the situations you're describing here aren't what is happening to OP. From what she's saying she's shown little to no interest in him. Him grabbing her ass out of nowhere is absolutely not appropriate. It sounds more like a power play than a come on. That's just nasty. If they had been flirting and she had responded positively, and physical contact had already been established, then maybe he could take the risk, but he would need to accept that it may ruin things. It's not the same as going in for a kiss. Going in for a kiss isn't a power play in the way that ass groping is. To do this out of nowhere is inappropriate.

        Also OP sounds very young. That makes the whole thing even worse to me.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          4 years ago

          I think that’s one of the things that unsettles me the most. I’m 14, he’s 17.

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          • SwickDinging
            4 years ago

            Please report this to a teacher, and make sure they do something about it. He sounds awful. You don't have to put up with this

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