Am i overreacting?
I've been with my girlfriend for nearly six years. She cheated on me during the first six months of our relationship with my best friend. We worked on our relationship, therapy etc. We always seem to have the same fights over and over again. I am uncomfrtable with her relationships w other females that i dont know or dont trust. For example, i met a co-worker that was very rude to me. I didnt really caare for her attitude and to top things off, she is totally my gf's type. Plus, my gf never wanted me to go to any work functions because she thought that I might find this girls behavior offensive. how am I supposed to feel about that? That is just one example of many. There was another situation w another co-worker in which my gf and this co-worker were having lunch together when we specifically agreed that she wouldnt hang out w/ people I wasnt comfortable with. Of course, i make smart**** comments because these situations hurt my feelings. There are countless work events that my gf invites me to like this: "Im going with the girls from work to a baseball game, come if you want. but then, she never even told me when the game was happening.Bottom line is that I feel like she is embarrassed by me or that there is something to hide, like maybe how she acts when i'm not around. We were at a concert last week and she was looking at other girls, which is normal. then her sisters best friend kept giving her overly friendly kisses on the mouth. She claims that she is just like her sister. Am I as crazy insecure as she tells me, or am I the only person that thinks this type of behaviour is inappropriate? She is always welcome to hang out with our friends and family w/o me, yet she only wants to be alone w work functions because she says she doesnt want any comments from me. Have I mentioned that she is very friendly and a flirt. We get along great when these situations dont get in the way. our fights are always the same, she says that i need to trust her or she pulls away and doesnt want to hang out with me. I feel like im crazy and my self confidence is getting lower and lower. I am at the point that I dont want to be an idiot yet i want to know if im being overly jealous and suspicious. (I rarely call her at work because i feel like i cant or she thinks im checking up on her.) I know that if the situation were reversed, she would hate it. Fortunately for her, I have different ideas on respect in a relationship. Help!!!