Am i overreacting?

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Idk if I’m over reacting or if it’s cause I’m tired.... I went to the boyfriends on Friday. He barely spoke sat on his own sofa didn’t come near me, tried it on in bed I rejected.
Saturday I went out for sisters birthday so didn’t see him
Sunday he didn’t seem right on text I tried to joke and he was dead serious he was also quiet I confronted him and he said he was joking and was fine I went round that night he barely said anything we went to bed and slept together.
Monday the plan was to go to his mums for tea, on text again he just seemed different so I said something doesn’t seem right he said he was fine don’t worry... I know he’s quiet when hes not well but he said he was okay.
Got to his mums told everyone he had a headache.... but told me he was fine. I joined in the convo when I could but I’m quiet he was a bit of an arse, he said to me at the end ‘oh I forgot you were here’ that upset me. We got back to his out the car and he walked off and left me. I said thanks for walking off we got in and I went straight to bed. He got in I was facing him and he turned his back to me... I said night then and turned round and I cried. Took him a while but he started rubbing my arm.... said he loved me this morning and is acting fine but I wanna confront him.... but am I over reacting?

He also is planning a get together on Saturday... boys and football... and has asked me if I’m coming I said I will if you want me too... basically cause I don’t mind if he wants to spend time with his mates alone and he said ‘it’s up to you’ we are going to town afterwards. Yet couldn’t come out with me this weekend cause he had no money??

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  • Tealights
    4 years ago

    What got me was, "I forgot you were here." I'm not even in your relationship and that stung me a bit.

    My suggestion, have one serious talk with him. Try your best to not cry or get angry during the talk, just listen; imagine you're a private investigator trying to find the truth. If he refuses to talk to you, or continues to tell you he's fine, then tell him, "You've been treating me like shit lately. If this is how you are when you're fine, then I guess I'm fine too," and just do your own thing. Don't cater to his moodiness, and just enjoy life.

    Right now, he's going through something he thinks you're not worthy of knowing. If he wants to handle it alone, then let him. Life is too short to be caged up by someone else's emotions, and life is too short to be forgotten by someone who claims to "love" you. If you're not ready to end the relationship, at least go hang out with your friends more and let him just be an asshole to himself.

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    • ToffeeMe
      4 years ago

      Hey OP this is true. Let him be. If he wants a space then give him, let him cool down and wait until you can talk to him already.

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  • dimwitted
    4 years ago

    I read through this and all I got was that he's basically using you for sex because you're convenient but otherwise he's emotionally detached.

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    • ToffeeMe
      4 years ago

      ohh that is so painful.

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    • FromTheSouthWeirdMan
      4 years ago

      I disagree, I love my wife but she gets upset about the same shit with me. I dont use her for sex. Some guys just arent big cuddlers and dont be attentive to women 24 7.

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  • Nednerb43
    4 years ago

    I put this conversation off for way to long when i saw the signs. Now im alone and miserable . I lost my family over not trying to fix things. I dont blame myself
    My wife was never really all there. But since she has her parents she gets to raise our daughter almost 2000 miles away from me. Obviously this isnt the same thing but i want you to see what could happen if you let time slip away. Heed my warning. Figure out whats going on and if it can be fixed or its a lost cause. Either way there are some pieces to pick up and something to build.

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    • ToffeeMe
      4 years ago

      This is a very nice example. When I noticed there is something wrong with the way my ex bf treat me I automatically tried to figure it out and that's the time I caught him texting to his friend that he is tired and gets fed up on me. So I talked to him and I decided to break up. I don't want to push myself to someone who doesn't want me anymore. There's a lot of loving guys out there that'll appreciate me.

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      • Nednerb43
        4 years ago

        It sucks for me because i got so used to having her there . Now in my 30s and i have to readjust my whole life around this person while still being alone all because we have a child. I cant just move on.

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        • ToffeeMe
          4 years ago

          Why not try to open up your self to somebody else..

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          • Nednerb43
            4 years ago

            Im going to open myself to myself

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  • paramore93
    4 years ago

    You should sit him down and ask him what's up. Speculation won't get you far.

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  • SwickDinging
    4 years ago

    He sounds like an inadequate partner. I would cut him loose and start looking for someone who doesn't say things like "I forgot you were here".

    Everything in your relationship is about him. It sounds like he barely thinks about you but expects you to think about him.

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  • FromTheSouthWeirdMan
    4 years ago

    Sounds like to me from what you described similar to my situation with my wife. I love her to death but I dont like to cuddle and I'm not very emotionally soothing. I dont know how to make a woman feel special other than having fun with her. When we go do something we have a blast but when we are at home im kind of to my self. If she starts talking about something that upsets her idk what to say.

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    • ToffeeMe
      4 years ago

      What a pain

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  • [Old Memory]
    4 years ago

    could be one of two things. 1, he thinks you are attracted to someone else. 2, he doesn't really have feelings for you anymore.

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    • ToffeeMe
      4 years ago

      oooooh gosh. I can feel the pain running through my veins now and my heart is pumping heavy again 🤣 fvking heartache. Soon I'm sure Ill get over it. Same as you OP, don't worry about him leaving you, let him be.

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      • [Old Memory]
        4 years ago

        More, bigger fish in the sea to catch I say

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