Am i obsessed in relation, actually i can't live without him !

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I ve been with my bf for 2yrs now, and im too attached to him, the thing is that ive had other relationships but i feel like hes the only one ive loved this way, i cant live just without thinking about him, if he gets mad and hangs up on me when we fight i get super worried and i feel so scared that i may never talk to him again like if im going to lose him forever so i call him constantly till he picks up, sometimes he doesnt and i panick, i always have my phone on me where ever i go for calls messages and moroever wats app, and if i do miss his call i get so worried that he might get mad and break up with me so i call him back right away, Any surprises and gifts he doesnt like if i do anything he gets hyper on me and i get annoyed but still cant leav him just for sake, he cares a lot but all charm is gone out of the way, he is always like go enjoy with frnds etc but i dont do it, We dont meet up frequently and wenevr we are meeting its all alone nly him and me, i feel so exhausted i sometimes want to take a break and be alone but i cant i cant find it in me to do it and leave him alone and its draining me i feel like i have no dignity what so ever and let him treat me how ever he likes, and i do what ever it takes to keep him around, whats wrong with me i never used to be like this i feel obsessed and its killing me inside i cant take living like this anymore, just tired of living just for him and worrying for him to be happy and not taking care of me is this obsession? I feel like an addict, with a drug addiction who wants to stop and doesnt have the will power to do it i need help! i cant live with out him and ive stop living for myself :(

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    If you squeeze a juicy piece of fruit too tightly, you will end up with a squishy mess. Be very, very careful to temper your needs with those of your BF.
    If you love someone you can only keep them by giving them their freedom, not by holding on too tightly.

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  • DubstepismyMJ
    10 years ago

    Oh man.... This seems so deep rooted.
    What i would advise is to stop saying to yourself you cant live without him. Because thats obviously not true. You had awhole life happening way before you ment him.

    Out of all the words anyone can say to you, your words mean the most. So you got to stop saying to yourself "i cant live without him" and replace it with "i can live without him".
    Its gonna take time, like any addiction, be patient and dont give up. Patience.

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  • (s)aint
    10 years ago

    It seems to me as if your boyfriend is the only one in your life that matters to you? No close friends that you hang out with on a regular basis?

    I can relate to a degree, I'm a VERY clingy person too but not to the extent that you seem to be. I have friends on and off the internet that I can hang out with but I till feel miserable when I'm not with my boyfriend or when he doesn't pay me enough of attention ( I Can't EVER get enough of attention >>)

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  • LornaMae
    10 years ago

    Awww, I'm so sorry, you seem to be in a lot of pain. I suggest that first you look up the entry for 'obsessive love' on Wikipedia. It may be a start. I know how those feelings must hurt him and mainly yourself and I'm not sure how one can cope with them either. If you know you don't love him, maybe you should be alone for a while, focus on trying to find balance and prepare for a new relationship (even if it's with him) before anything else. And yes, love can be an addiction.

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