Am i not meant for relationships?

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Well lately I started dating, and I mean the first few weeks were amazing and after that I just feel like I don't feel the same anymore and I just don't want to be in a relationship. And I hate it because I meet the most nice respectful men and I just end up breaking their hearts. I wish I could take this feeling away but it's like I wake up with a different feeling everyday

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[Old Memory]

8 years ago

I'm a man and I'm like this. Sometimes I don't even bother having sex with who I date.

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- RoseIsabella
  
  8 years ago
  
  I'm not interested in sex outside of monogamy. I dunno why I mention that honestly. It just seems like a waste of time, energy and emotion to be intimate with someone too soon when no other real connection exists. All those hormones and brain chemicals swirling around to confuse a person into believing in and feeling that which does not exist.
  
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  - mystery7
    
    8 years ago
    
    Same.
    
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- Eliiieee
  
  8 years ago
  
  I am the same way, I haven't had sex in 3 years and when I do get in relationships most of them are virgins or I let them know I'm not into sexual activities
  
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    8 years ago
    
    I haven't been anyone since I left my second ex husband.
    
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(s)aint

8 years ago

If you know you are like this, refrain from getting in comitted relationships too fast.
Take your time in getting to know someone and tell them you need time to figure out what you want.

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- RoseIsabella
  
  8 years ago
  
  Yes, brilliant! Those are words of wisdom, my friend.
  ;-)
  
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dirtybirdy

8 years ago

Normal. I don't need that companionship that some people crave. It's more of a bother than anything else.

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- derpyderp
  
  8 years ago
  
  The companionship becomes a bother?
  
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  - dirtybirdy
    
    8 years ago
    
    Basically. Long story but I've been in some long term shit, one was realllyyyy long term, and after coming to many realizations about myself, the other persons, what's happened, what should have happened, how I felt and thought then compared to now, blah blah blah, what it boils down to is I like my space and plenty of it. I don't like cohabitation as it turns out. After so many years of being tied down, ultimate freedom is all I want.
    
    It doesn't mean I'm lonely when I'm alone ;)
    
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    - RoseIsabella
      
      8 years ago
      
      PLAY SOME SKYNRD!!!
      
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    - Freedom_
      
      8 years ago
      
      Freedom is here for ya, birdy!
      
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    - [Old Memory]
      
      8 years ago
      
      Most people that do relationships, at least long term, do it for the comfortability, if such a word exists. And alot do it because it's considered normal to settle down. It doesn't mean it's for everyone.
      
      I'm not an easy person to live with, and that doesn't make me a terrible person.
      
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      - dirtybirdy
        
        8 years ago
        
        At first I thought it'd be great to have this sexy man to come home to and hang out with whenever and all that crap but that shit's for the birds so to speak. I wondered why so many people in relationships seemed unhappy and a lot of it is this thing "compromise" but that's not really what it is most of the time. It's total change and that's not cool. F that noise. It took a while to figure out for me but I finally did.
        
        I'm a good birdy too but it's best for me to have a solitary nest.
        
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        RoseIsabella
        
        8 years ago
        
        In many ways, for me, compromise is synonymous with settling. I have to work on and learn to love myself before I can begin to love someone else or ever imagine letting them love me in anything other than a Platonic way.
        
        A have a female friend that told me last night on the phone that she could live on a commune. I told her I'd rather be a hermit, but now upon further reflection I prefer the word recluse, because it makes me think of spiders.
        
        I honestly like this chick, but that's too many Goddamn primates in my personal space! Why anyone would want to share everything they own with a bunch of dirty, hairless apes is beyond me. Too many people and not enough dogs and cats sounds like a nightmare to me. If this chick keeps babbling about that crap to me I'm gonna start reading Ayn Rand just for spite.
        
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RoseIsabella

8 years ago

I'm a two time divorcée so I've come to enjoy a certain gratitude for my solitary life. Nothing outside of heterosexual monogamy appeals to me, but I love and support my gay and transgendered friends. If I find a so called soul mate that's fine, but if I don't that's fine too. As far as I'm concerned it's in God's hands which is right where this issue of companionship should have been for me from the start. If it's God's will for me to find a soul mate then I will, and if it isn't I will continue to fly solo. No worries, no rush. I don't want anything or anyone that disrupts my serenity and peace of mind. I only need one copilot and he's a Jewish carpenter.

I would love to have more money, career options and animals. I feel that the road there will be to continue my education rather than seek to validate myself through hollow so called romantic entanglements.

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- mystery7
  
  8 years ago
  
  That's pretty much how I think about it all too.
  
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    8 years ago
    
    Right on!
    *paws up*
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Aries

8 years ago

simply don't date until you truly have fallen in love with someone .

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derpyderp

8 years ago

What changes?
Your attraction to them, your feelings about yourself?

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- Eliiieee
  
  8 years ago
  
  My attraction to them
  
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  - derpyderp
    
    8 years ago
    
    You say you've just started dating?
    How long ago? How many different dates?
    
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Crusades|

8 years ago

I can relate. My attraction to a girl usually lasts one month at most, after that I just shift my attention to other girls.
I can say though, that the relationship I'm in right now was the longest so far only because I use her for the money.
She's so gullible.

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- [Old Memory]
  
  8 years ago
  
  What this post is discussing is normal. The person feels guilt over what they're doing, and I can relate because I am very similar. They wish they weren't like this, as I wish I wasnt like that also, but in the end you can't deny who you really are. I've never cheated on anyone I dated and I never play with someone's emotions.
  
  What you are doing is shitty (if you are in fact doing this and not lying like you did with your profile picture). You are knowingly using someone else and their emotions. Playing with fire as it were. People who play with fire long enough end up getting burned.
  
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