Am i normal to feel the way i do?

I have a group of friends and over a year ago i met this guy who was part of the group before i came along. I developed a crush on him and we eventually got together and spent a year or so being in a relationship. It wasnt all peachy tho, he was quite nasty to me, and put me down alot, he also on more than one occasion told me that he wasnt attracted to me, but i told myself that he would grow to love me. He also had an extremely close relationship with a girl he worked with and they were always together, he eventually told me that he liked her and that she had a 'tight arse' but a relationship with her would never work out.

When i wasnt with him he would not be reached easliy, i would come back to his and notice used condom packets and when confronting him he told me he was masturbating but i always suspected him cheating on me with her.

I went away for my sisters graduation for 2 days and on the second night i text and called but no reply. I came back the next day and he had love bites on his neck and shoulder and claimed that this was from a badminton game.

Things then totally blew up the week after when he told me he had strong feelings for my friend and then tried to have sex with me after telling me.

THat was it , the final nail in the coffin, i had to leave him . So i said although i cant be with you anymore can i please stay till i find somewhere. But no he told me to get out of his house!

So i had nowhere to go!

almost a month on and he is being accepted bk into the group. I am so pissed off this guy really did me wrong i know i cant contorl who is friends with whom but i am not happy about it. I mean i dont want him there at all, i really feel frustrated and stressed about this one.

Is it normal to feel betrayed if your friends talk to ur ex?

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Based on 43 votes (32 yes)
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  • fakeman

    I am not getting any awards for saying this, but you sound like an idiot. You made friends with a group long after it was formed. You became a girlfriend of a guy who did not like you, treated you like garbage, and talked longingly about others, and you still stayed with him. There was ample proof that he was cheating on you, but you did not leave in case "he would grow to love me". The final straw, you say, was that he said he loved your friend. But for some reason, the fact that he was having sex with everything that had a pair of legs was not enough for you to leave him. You then left him, the only smart thing you did in this story. How are you shocked that your friends, who were his long before you ever came into the picture, are going back to him? Honestly. He sounds like a complete asshole, but you seem like a total moron.

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    • louloublue

      Looking back, you are right there fake man! Check out my latest love story fail x

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  • goldsburg2010

    just move on with your life! too many women hold things in too much. forgive and forget, let your past go, and move on with your life. it is the best i can do in helping you out. if i hurt you i'm sorry, but you need to please move on with your life.goodluck.

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  • smileytom

    Sounds like an asshole. Tough situation though! I have been in a very similar situation. So normal to feel betrayed, unfortunalty times is the best cure. Goodluck.

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  • JillV

    AW,so sorry honey! The guy sounds like a real dirt bag.
    I was once in a similar situation...I found myself a new group of friends.

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  • dandee82

    WHEN PEOPLE DO THINGS TO ONE ANOTHER ITS YOUR BUSINESS BUT WHEN SOMEONE DOES SOMETHING, IN THIS CASE BAD, TO A FRIEND ITS EVERYONE'S BUSINESS, YOU SHOULD MAKE CERTAIN DISTANCE FROM THIS GROUP BECUASE HES PROBABLY GOING TO BE THIS GREAT AWESOME GUY WHEN YOUR THERE JUST TO SPITE YOU, AND BESIDES SOON ENOUGH YOUR FRINDS WILL REALIZE WHAT A JERK HE REALLY IS. ALSO EXPRESS YOURSELF TO YOUR FRIEND AND TELL THEM IN A PROFESSIONAL A CURTOUS MANNER WBY YOU ARE REMOVING YOURSELF, NO SCREAMING NO NAME CALLING AND NO BLAMING ANYONE, IT WILL MAKE YOU LOOK MORE STABLE.....BUT WHAT THE F@!K AM I SAYING JUST GET NEW FRIENDS!!!!!!F!@K THAT!!

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  • Shifter

    I would feel hurt too, 'cos not only did this guy betray and hort youy but he did little to hide how unfaithful he was been, was almost like he dangled it infront of your face and surely your friends know this?

    Its a hard one because like you said, they knew him first, i guess putting yourself in their shoes..they would have to choose between two friends when they werent really involved in the relationship or the break up.

    Can't you see them seperately to him? Arrange to do things with them, without him there, surely they will understand this?

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  • sim000

    OH my god! Dump your so called friends too! That is not true friendship!!! What are they?? Teenagers!! Yes completely normal to feel betrayed...but if they were his friends first well then you can always make more GENUINE friends. This guy sounds like an idiot! Leaving used condoms around?? Hello... has he heard of a bin??? How disgusting. Ick!! Have more respect for yourself. This guy sounds like a skank!

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  • holio

    Who's friends are they? If it's his house and people are going there, are they not his friends? It really depends on who owns the house and their relationship to him versus their relationship with you. The others will just follow the group.

    Why would you tolerate his treatment?

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  • Ryan556

    Wtf you dont use condoms to masterbate you got the dumb arse as you put it

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