Am i normal for my age?

Well I'm 19 and about to be 20 in a couple of months and Ive only had two girlfriends ever. My first girlfriend wouldn't even kiss me, we kissed once on our one month anniversary then she dumped me a couple days later. My second girlfriend lasted just as long but we never really fell for each other. So I am still a virgin (actually I am the only virgin I know). But now I realize I don't even want a girlfriend or sex really ever. I think I'm too anti-social and too shy to even try to get both so I don't bother with trying anymore. I would rather sit and play video games than to have sex and/or a relationship. I also have never been drunk and I have never been high. Is this normal for people my age?

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61% Normal
Based on 100 votes (61 yes)
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Comments ( 16 )
  • olivia82

    I'm 27 and never kissed a girl...but I am a women.

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  • RowdyCowboy

    Well- it is somewhat normal- Guys your age are curious about getting drunk/high/laid- You are at that age where you should be out there enjoying life instead of playing videogames-

    I would recommend coming out of your shell- join clubs, play sports, do outdoors, boost your confidence- chicks like confident guys and hate shy videogamers-

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    • bringerofdelusion

      What I'm saying though is that I don't even want a relationship or sex. I don't find either worth putting myself into.

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  • cigs

    That's funny you never been drunk or high

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  • Terence_the_viking

    no it's not normally it's unhealthy you need to see a pysiicitraistitrr

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  • Neapolitana

    Hm, being a virgin/shy sounds VERY normal to me. It's the lack of desire that has me thinking.. Have you considered the notion that you might be gay?

    If not, perhaps you have a hormonal imbalance that is giving you a low sex drive (I'm thinking low testosterone). This could affect all aspects of your mood and even your personality. Maybe consider seeing an endocrinologist. You should definitely check out your options since you're clearly not happy:( Good luck!

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  • (cont'd)

    not normal, but everyone is different. U are normal. You don't have to seek out something if you aren't ready yet. Take ur time, focus on school, and enjoy your childhood.

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  • You're still young. You should be focused on school and your future... see what having relationships so early while you're still maturing does to u ? Society makes it seem like all 12 year olds should begin dating, and if u haven't by 20 you're not k

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  • bringerofdelusion

    I will be 21 in a month now, and it looks as if nothing has changed.

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  • screaminasian

    give sex a shot first before making any decisions to avoid it

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  • BOYracer88

    sorry what i forgot to say was not wanting a relationship is perfectly normal, not everyone your (our) age wants to get tied down, infact i know guys in their 40s who dont want relationships, but do try to sleep with a girl you will love it lol

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  • BOYracer88

    jus put yourself out there dude, you gotta make shit happen, these things dont come looking for you, you must have a very focused life if youve never got drunk/high/laid before and i respect that, but you gunna regret not doin dumb shit, acting like a fool, getting girls etc in a few years coz u shud enjoy being young it wont last forever and you will regret not making the most of it. good luck mate

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  • shinno

    the not wanting part is a bit worry some.... i am 24 and i enjoy getting laid, but i am not looking for it constantly, been single for about 3 years now and i only gotten laid twice in those two years, more focus on school and my life. you should go out a bit more or try to talk to more people i understand the anti social part for i am one kinda. don't worry about the sex just find your self a few good friends, and a couple of girls to talk with maybe you fall in love with one of them, don't get me wrong have you though of the other team?

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  • drchuckfll

    I think it is still perfectly normal...At your age, you are still exploring your sexual and social options....There are probably more virgins at you school than you know..The bragging way out does the real truth. PART of it may be the social groups you are in. When most guys get together, get drunk to make up for the self-doubts they have about themselves, and then shame YOU into doing something with a girl. You are still a work in progress..don't worry.Everyone is different...Enjoy yours...Good luck, 19

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  • Garraven

    Most of the time i fell the same way. But then again it dosen't mater because there aren't many girls who like people like me.
    I think it is fine as long as you don't live with your parents.

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  • BlondBoiBombshell

    i think ur really depressed or serverly tramatized cause i love videogames but i also love boys as a matter of fact im on my ps3 now

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