Am i mistaking friendship for something else?

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Recently I met a girl, and we connected really well. I personally felt it was really easy to talk to her. I liked talking to her, getting to know her and understanding where she comes from. We both enjoyed each other’s company (she did say things such as, I wish the conversation never ends, complementing how I looked in the outfit etc. When I tried getting back to work, she would prolong the conversation, she took me to places when I was feeling down etc)

She mentioned a few times that she has a business. For the first few days I didn’t ask her as I didn’t want to intrude. When she started sharing things about herself, I asked her about the business and she asked me if I was interested to join it.

By now I realised that I did have feelings for her. I wasn’t interested in the business. Therefore I declined. Ever since then we haven’t spoken to each other.

Did I misinterpret her intentions? Did I mistake friendship for something else?

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Based on 6 votes (4 yes)
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  • Tealights
    4 years ago

    Sounds like she was chatting you up to see if you'll join her business.

    It's very common practice that attractive men and women use their appearance as an advantage in certain fields; they know all it takes is a feign interest, make light friendly conversation, and pop a few flirtatious jokes to get someone hooked. You got hooked, but not hooked enough to be at her beck and call to join whatever she had going on. In the end, she cut her losses.

    It's a hard lesson most people need to learn that appearances doesn't mean anything and to look beyond it.

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    • RoseIsabella
      4 years ago

      I hate people like that, salespeople are yucky.

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  • jethro
    4 years ago

    What's her business? She sounds like a con artist just looking for a mark. When you didn't want to be a mark, she moved on and doesn't want to waste time on someone that she cant scam. Move on yourself.

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  • kinky_Wheels
    4 years ago

    Make a better business. She will crawl back 👿👌

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  • RoseIsabella
    4 years ago

    Ugh, that so awful! Sounds like she was grooming you so that she could manipulate you into getting interested in her business. She also sounds very codependent. Was she into MLMs, like Amway. I'm sorry you had to deal with her. I'm not a fan of the salesperson type of personality.

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    • Tracy_Brooke
      4 years ago

      Yes, she was into Amway. She actually texted me asking to “drop off the loaned books at the mailbox”. It bothered me that she asked to drop the books off rather than collect it in person. She definitely was very pretentious

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      • RoseIsabella
        4 years ago

        Oh my God! I'm so sorry, I hate just that sort of bullshit! I used to buy DoTerra essential oils, and I remember having a lot of anxiety about wanting to find someone who wasn't pushy to sign up with, because I don't care about selling anything, I just wanted to be able to buy stuff I wanted.

        What kinda books were those?

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        • Tracy_Brooke
          4 years ago

          Business of the 21st century by Robert kiyosaki and household gold by Steve w price

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          • RoseIsabella
            4 years ago

            So she loaned those to you?

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  • ellnell
    4 years ago

    It shows disinterest to not ask a person questions about their life. If you're into someone you want to know them and what they do.

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  • [Old Memory]
    4 years ago

    Was she just a really good acting sales women?

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    • d0esnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      Maybe. Good rule of thumb tho is be careful hitting on girls who have to be nice to you for their job. I've looked stupid doing that before.

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      • [Old Memory]
        4 years ago

        Only you.

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        • d0esnormalmatter
          4 years ago

          Huh? Surely other guys have done it.

          I could have swore one of my managers was DTF she was giving so much signs and going out of her way to be nice to me but she put a stop to me flirting with her real quick! Oooof that was awkward. Maybe I could have been less direct but still.

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  • litelander8
    4 years ago

    Regardless of your interpretation, you should ask her out again. The worst that can happen is her not being interested.

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