Am i just bullshitting myself ?

Deep down inside, I really want to engage with people and have a genuine conversation with them. But somehow, when I am on the verge of making good conversation, I pull myself back and start doing the old bullshit routine. By bullshit routine, I mean 'boys talk', you know like making dick jokes, not being serious, talking about banging the waitress, Pokemon porn, etc. I do enjoy having these sort of nonsense conversations from time to time. After a busy day at college/work, one just wants to relax. All I am saying is that I am growing tired of this routine. One might say, I have grown out of childish humor but the thing is, it's not even about that, I am also exhausted by having these so called adult conversations. Whenever I try to address a difficult issue, my brain just halts and I don't want to think or talk about it anymore. It's like I am addicted (for lack of a better word). I fantasize myself having an intellectual conversation but in reality I can't bring myself to it. I revert back to the old routine. To give a concrete example, I was having a discussion with my friend about Science. We were talking about how awesome it is, joking about dinosaurs and Pluto not being a planet anymore. I asked (and wanted to) him whether he thinks that science can answer moral questions. He replied "I don't know, maybe." and I said "I bet science can't explain all why we watch midget porn" and then we laughed and we moved on to some nonsense topic. This happens quite frequently. Am I just bullshitting myself ? Is this normal ? Does anyone share the same feelings ?
PS: I didn't want to write this post, it took me a long time to find the motivation to write it.(That same stagnation occurred)

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  • joolia03

    I don't think you're bullshitting yourself. I think you just have an ideal image you want to display yourself as. Remember anything is possible so don't think being serious or having "serious conversations" isn't in you. It is. You just have to have confidence first and then be able to find those people on the same page as you.
    What I'm curious about is you're a guy right? It surprises every time when a guy wants to be solid serious and possibly express feelings since they just think black and white from what I know. Joking around is kind of their way to get passed personal and serious topics which is really annoying and can make an impact. So just know there will be people, like me, who appreciate you being serious and personal every now and then. :)

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  • Fall_leaves

    Yeah actually I have this with a group of friends of mine, I hold back a lot with them. I wouldn't feel comfortable trying to talk to any of them because I know how judgemental and shallow they can be.

    Maybe in your case you just haven't found the right person to discuss serious topics with. Do you think you could be holding yourself back because you're afraid you won't be taken seriously and will sound silly?

    If that's the reason don't worry, it's fun to engage in serious conversations and listen to others, you really can find out a lot about a person. I love hearing someone talk about something they're passionate about or go into depth on something they never even realized they felt so strongly about. When you see someone's eyes light up and that realization come across their face it's priceless, you're witnessing them discover something new about themselves. The ideas and thoughts two people can come up with in a conversation are amazing, goooo be social and interact the way you want to there is nothing to hold yourself back from!

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  • Unimportant

    Maybe you just aren't used to having these serious conversations?

    For me, it depends on my mood. Sometimes I'm into it, sometimes I'd rather make midget-porn-jokes. And sometimes it's a mix.

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  • green_boogers

    You sound completely comfortable being an over-grown 13 year old. Do you want to grow up or not? Many adults are insecure and shallow because they never have.

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