Am i jealous or justified ---- relationship drama...

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Well i have this girl that ive been with for almost a year She's 25 and Im 22 , To make along story Short "When she was Down and on her ass i was there" paying bills Feeding her when she didnt have money to feed her Self one time she was even sitting in the dark and i once again Bailed her out. I feel like im 22 years old paying bills and putting food on the table most of the time , she went through a hard time where she switched jobs and i was the only one there for her. Everytime her back is against the wall im right there. Latley I dont want to have Fun nor go out with her anywhere because im always worried about the next payment (keep in mind im still in college) im not even sure if im in love i feel obligated i care about her but this is getting very stressfull i express to her all the time that i do this becaue i love you however she has a twitter and Fb contact problem (i get jelous when other dudes even text or Call) !!!!! Why because im fucking paying bills and making water into wine in a house thats not even my own sometimes (not to mention im in college) i told her i find it highly disrespectfull when her x'boy friends etc contact her and fellow flirty buddies is it wrong of em to want to leave am i jelous or am i justified... It makes me so fucking angry i told her im not doing shit for her no more when her birthday occured i had rent i needed to pay at my own apartment and i fucked myself over just to see her smile i had enough. ( dont get me wrong i dont pay her bills all the time , most of the time she covers them) and i pay for food or when we go out but at 21-22 It's to much im to young for this im about to break up with her she does alot for me Cook Etc loves me alot but i feel like i have to let it go for the sakes of my $ i get more $ than the avg college student and all of this is leading to stress i cant study i cant sleep we argue every time somebody text's her (You fucking right) every time because if it wasnt for me She would be on her ass. If we lived in different apartments i wouldnt be feeling this way i tell her this all the time. i feel like the only reason i feel this way is because i live with her if i didnt i wouldnt give a fuck i would expect small shit not under the roof i live in. Im thinking about going back across town to my apt and just Saying fuck it the fact that she flirting with them makes me feel angry and disrespected.. This shit is for the birds. Is it normal to feel this way?

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  • Ldizzy1234
    13 years ago

    Yes, it's normal that you feel this way. This girl is taking you for a ride. And you even said it yourself, YOU ARE WAY TOO YOUNG for this crap. You shouldn't have to be supporting her. And she really is walking all over you. IT IS very disrespectful what she's doing to you. And I think it's normal that you're jealous of other guy's texting her, because lets face it, it sounds like you two are already married. Even if you aren't, she's got you eating out of her hand.

    I understand that she could risk having nothing without your help. You're pretty much the one who's keeping her together, holding her up on her two feet. But honestly, it doesn't seem like she's even making an effort to pay you back all that you give to her. I mean, she's pretty much dropped the payment of respect. Yeah, she cooks, but come on!!!! This girl needs a reality check.

    You have to confront her about this. You give her the shirt off your back, and you get nothing in return. Sure, you aren't asking for anything in return, and a lot of times people like you do things out of the kindness of your own heart not expecting anything in return, but it's the principle of the thing. She needs to give a little in return whether you asked for it or not.

    Doesn't she see that she's wearing you down? Doesn't she care that you run in circles for her ass: to save it? You have to let her know how you feel about all this. You guys are gonna have to negotiate something where the relationship evens out 50/50. She's almost failing on her part. Does she have a job? If she doesn't, is she even attempting to find one?

    It sounds almost like she's using you. If you can't figure something out, you shouldn't really stay in that relationship. From the looks of the way it is now, it probably wouldn't be any better further down the line. In fact, it could get worse. And I know you probably don't want any hard feelings, and the last thing you want is to break up with her because,... you "love" her, but you can't be afraid to speak up. You need to address the problem to face this head on, even if it means a huge blow up of tears.

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  • xXAnnaXx
    13 years ago

    I respect that. :)
    She could be on the street and die of starvation with the click of your fingers, but you protect her..

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  • jensapa
    13 years ago

    Threaten to break up with her if she doesn't pull her head in an treat u better. She should soon change her ways, trust me. An if she doesn't, she's not worth it.

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