Am i in a homosexual relationship?

Hey friends of IIN. I've spent a lot of time on this site reading what people have to say and doing my best to leave good comments to help every one I can. Today I have a question and I need some good advice.

Me and XXXX met each other about 10 years ago on our high school volleyball team. He's 5'01 230 pounds brown hair and eyes, clean shaven and has ALWAYS had his trade mark spiked hair cut. Just thought you would like to get a picture of him in your mind. Oh yeah Im 6'5 110 pounds bald with brown eyes (stocky build). We both got out of high school and went to college together. Rented an apartment off of campus and had the greatest college experience two young athletic men could.

After college we opened a bar up down in Key West. It was never our choice to make it into what you would call a "gay bar" but it seems all the gay men in the area just made it that way. We got a cute little apartment above it that we live in. Ok now to the point. Back 10 years ago in high school we had our first sleep over. That night I slept over at XXXX's place. Its very common for two young boys to sleep in the same bed and thats what we did. During the night I woke up with a raging boner and noticed XXXX's hard boner was out of his undies and pressed up against mine. That night we grinded up against one another over an over again. It was so exciting and the next morning nothing was said. Now from what I can understand a lot of young boys do this so I never thought anything of it after we did it every weekend.

In college we had a waterbed we shared and once the lights would go off I would be jerking XXXX off and giving him orall. Once the day came nothing was said and we went on about our normal lives. At this point I started to feel like this was not normal and that other guys were not doing these things. All our friends we noticed had girl friends and always talking about getting laid. When we decided to open up our place in key west after college things went a step further. One night a customer left some KY Jelly down on the bar and we had a good laugh after they left about how some Fag was going to just have to use spit tonight to take it up the ass. An hour later after the lights went out Harold was using the same KY Jelly to anally molest me. From that night on he always anally penetrates me. This has been going on for quite a few years but nothing is said when its done and NEVER during the day. We never kiss when we mess around but I get the feeling we might be homosexuals or at least interested.

At what point does the line get drawn from 2 guys just messing around with each other to them being considered gay? Can someone give me some advice on what to do here?

Mark.