Am i crazy

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ive raised my stepchildren, boy from 9 mos. girl from six, mostly myself for 17 years now. my wife has/had mental health problems,including ongoing ECT for the last 15 years.they call me dad and have no contact with thier so called real "dads". my relationship with my wife has been mostly me being her nurse or therapist for years, she doesnt get out of bed very much.our daughter has been the "mom" sometimes.at some times in the past my wife has mistreated the daughter(emotionally)not abuse just crazy sh*t.which i sometimes feel guilty for not stepping in then.the kids say if we divorce they would try to come with me,so our daughter in her early 20,s now,is being rebellious and making bad choices.so mom wants to kick her out. ive been trying to help her and weve grown close and she is absolutely beautiful.so now im having feelings for her i probably shouldnt, not really so much sexual,although some. but its really i want to hold her and love her. she and i had a little talk dinner and i told her some of this last nite (with a little alcohol involved) she didnt freak out but said "i understand some of it but dont cross the line". havent seen her this morning yet so dont know how its going to be.have i now screwed up our relationship? am i freakin nuts or what?

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  • Jim_Pfoss
    15 years ago

    You should have been holding her in a loving, non-sexual way her whole life. That's the only reason why it seem unnatural now.
    Physical human contact is a basic, real need for emotional health. You let yourself be satisfied getting this only from wife, but now that is no longer possible.
    Still, it seems unwise and probably unfair to rely only on your children for this need now, after years of neglect.

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