Am i considered asexual, pansexual or something else?
Hello. I have been looking over things, but I have not seen anything reference my specific, let's call them, oddities. I am a young adult male and have been researching sexuality, attractiveness and relationships for a long time due to curiosity and my original desire to be a Psychologist, specifically a family therapist.
The more I delve into it the more curious I am about myself and I realize a few things that seem somewhat abnormal to people. Due to these realizations I am curious of I am truly Pansexual, as I claim, or if I am just Asexual with some dysfunction.
First: Anytime I meet someone I imagine if I can be in a relationship with him/her/em from first introduction. This usually goes with a bit of obsessive fantasizing that, ultimately ends in me deciding the flaws outweigh the benefits and this 'crush' period ends between a week and month. No one have I had an infatuation longer than a month.
Second: I can and do find everyone attractive. Rather than focus on ugliness of someone, I focus on the positives of his/her/eir physical form, and rarely, if even can legitimately say someone is 'ugly'.
Third: I have never been sexually attracted to any real person. I view, read, etc pornography, but most of it is drawn or just stories where I can imagine things myself and do experience arousal and masturbate. I do so frequently, as well, which is within the norm for males my age, but whenever someone else points out how he/she/ey would like to have sex with someone and I am brought with the question 'How about you?' I can only shrug and say, 'Not really...' And when I sexually fantasize without the aid of pornography it will NEVER involve me, but other created, non-real characters for the specific fantasy.
Fourth: I desire a relationship with someone and care not for what he/she/ey is, but who he/she/ey is. I want to be physical, but keep it reserved for whomever I would designate as a 'lover' only. I never hug, kiss, etc friends or even family, and am very reserved in my physical interaction with others. I do fantasize about being with someone and kissing, touching, etc but in all my fantasies of this type it involves a fog of black as if those 'who is this person?' trivia you see in the movie theater. I usually fantasize about one 'person,' but admit to being open to Poly relationships as well, though the preference is a Polyfidelous relationship (One where any involved are with one another, interconnected.)
So! Anyone out there able to share some insight? I have never heard of any such situation, most situations I see are people questioning not being attracted to anyone and deemed Asexual, being attracted to EVERYONE and being designated a Pansexual, or not being attracted to PEOPLE, but attracted to SEX or the thought of sex, which I am pretty sure I do not fall into that category, myself, due to lack of sexual experience/desire.
Asexual | 6 | |
Pansexual | 2 | |
Pan-Curious | 5 | |
Other (Explain) | 2 |