Am i clean?

My husband (of ten years) still tells me I am dirty. He is always asking me if I washed up. I shower daily but with working at home my shower may fall on different times during each day. I may have gone two days without showering at the most. When I get up in the morning I brush my teeth and put deodorant on. Now he only showers once a week and the rest of the week washes up with a washcloth in the morning and before bed. Which is better or worse? It is still eating at me "are my habits normal and maybe my parents never groomed me and have I ever been taught the right way?

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78% Normal
Based on 76 votes (59 yes)
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Comments ( 19 )
  • harachi

    If you're showering daily I can't see what your husband is on about. Maybe ask him to elaborate. Maybe it's your feet, or your breath, or some other part of your body. Or maybe he is just a horrible person who enjoys bullying you.

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  • vulcanvulva

    Your husband's a hypocrite, jeez. He needs to be showering daily just like you do. Come to think of it, he's probably projecting onto you because he feels gross.

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  • buckman

    I think, what he means, is that he ''washes up'' in the morning and before bed, and even though you've had a shower, he still thinks you should "wash up" before bed?
    However, he needs to bathe more than once every seven days, even if he is "washing up" twice a day.

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  • your hubby sounds like a jerk....

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  • Yeah sounds to me that your man is the dirty one. Discusting he only showers once a week. Tell him he has no right commenting about your shower habits when he has none himself.

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  • b454

    Maybe your husband is getting whiffs of himself. Showering once a week??! Blech!

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  • Trust me, as a guy I know. You may "think" you are clean but you may stink badly down below. My fiance has this same problem and although she did bathe that day, the smell of her "down below" could be quite strong that day and it is a huge turn off.

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  • spyderr

    He obviously is projecting his own worries about being unhygienic onto you.

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  • I can see why his insults must irk you coming from a guy who does not exactly qualify as Mr Hygiene! Once a week - what do you live in the country with no running water?

    Take a shower or bath every morning. It feels good. If he insults you again, stick a bar of soap in his mouth.

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  • anabolic19

    your normal
    if your husband can smell something funky its probably himself
    i mean who showers once a week?

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  • Fleabitten

    If no one else isn't noticing the smell, then perhaps he's just being a jerk. If your kitty smelled, wouldn't you notice?

    You're habits sound perfectly fine--but him, he needs to fix something! One week without bathing is pushing it.

    Don't ask US why he's saying these things--ask him.

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  • Chonga

    What an asshole,that's pretty weird!

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  • lina222444

    It's your husband. Your lucky it's him telling you than someone else. You have a good honest man. Most people I know shower daily, especially if you are constantly working. Your hair can go without washing, but not your body. You don't want him to reject you hen he wants some...He's doing you a favor so don't be offended. Take a 10 minute shower with soap daily and have a warm bath after your monthly friend.

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  • moepropane

    obv you smell like crap or he wouldnt be saying anything

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  • Jim_Pfoss

    You didn't mention it, but it's important: Do you walk two or three steps behind him public?

    It seems unreasonable for him to demand a carpet keep itself clean, but if you like to let him walk all over you, this last little requirement shouldn't be such a big deal.

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  • smiledude

    you are normal ----- dont worry - the average female needs a full body wash every 4 days or so just washing ure pits and face and .. down below.. is good enough

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  • secretme

    You are normal. You're freaking husband, however, is being a jerk. Don't let him get the best of you. ;)

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  • buriedalive

    You sound normal, it sounds like your husband's kind of strange though :S have you asked to him to elaborate on why he thinks you're dirty all the time?

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  • thundermagic

    you are perfecly normal. dont let him put you down..

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