Am i being unrealistic?

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So I found this really sweet guy and he is the perfect guy for me, he’s sweet, sensitive, caring and nice-looking. We both are attracted to each other and I feel hopeless because he lives 3 hours away. I want to have a relationship with him, but he brought me to my senses today after we had been talking for a month and told me over the phone that we can't have a relationship. He thinks we can’t have a real relationship because we live so far away.
I haven't had a relationship in so long and it's not because I can't get a guy, it's because I can't find the right one. I'm 19 and all the guys my age are immature and want to party, drink and have sex. Is it just me but I want a meaningful relationship with someone I care about. Maybe I cannot handle relationships as I tend to be a bit emotional when something happens, I'm a very sensitive girl and don't want to be hurt. But I feel that I am ready to be in a relationship again it has been years! Please some advice would be great; I want to have a relationship with him so badly, how can I make it work?

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  • dom180
    11 years ago

    Long distance relationships work, so long as both people are committed to them. It won't be a "normal" relationship, but since when was "normal" important in relationships? It would be absolutely "real", even if it wasn't "normal". You can meet up at the weekends, or every other week, or even every month depending on what you can afford. And there's Skype and phone calls. Long distance relationships absolutely can work.

    There are LOTS of guys your age who are interested in the sort of meaningful relationship you want, many of whom live closer to you. If you can't get this guy, there's no need to give up hope. If the only guys you see are the ones who care about nothing but partying, drinking and having sex then you are looking in the wrong places.

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  • Helios98000
    11 years ago

    Firstly, I wanna say you sound like an outstanding lady. Secondly, if he thinks he needs to move on because of the distance than let him. Don't let your fear of lonliness hold you back, because if you're dating someone JUST so you won't be lonely, is it really a healthy relationship? Thirdly, I want you to know that if you are as cool as you sound just keep you're eyes pealed and avoid douchebags. Any guy in his right mind will come sniffing soon enough.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Thanks your comment made me smile :)

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      • RomeoDeMontague
        10 years ago

        If you live within driving distance I would say you should try for it. Yes, men your age are bound to be dicks and idiots. Most people from 12-20 are complete idiots. That goes for men and women. No one is really mature at that age. Sex, alcohol and partying seems to be the thing for this age group. However if he says no you cant really force him to date you. Sorry to say. You are not being unreasonable but if he doesn't want it not much you can do besides trying to make him reconsider.

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  • Fammer3
    11 years ago

    Y'all heard of skype?

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  • Mando
    11 years ago

    Move 3 hours closer.

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  • CraneyCrow
    11 years ago

    He's right, a new relationship with three hours distnace between you wouldn't work. Once you finish school and are out on your own, look him up, if you're meant to be with this person, waiting won't make a difference.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    11 years ago

    No person on Catfish is normal.

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  • Kaory182
    11 years ago

    Go on Catfish.

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  • seekingcleanfriendship
    11 years ago

    Are normal to want a meaningful relationship deep down it's what everyone truly wants from one but you don't really need one right now , focus on getting your life together inside and out.
    If something is meant to be between the two of you it will happen in time but best to become the best you possible first.

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  • seekingcleanfriendship
    11 years ago

    You are 19 and haven't had a relationship in years? Heck when you start?
    Ok you have made a great friend there so keep it at that for now . You

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Yes I am 19 and haven had a relationship since high school. Is that bad?

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Move or move on.

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  • mitochondria
    11 years ago

    I think whether or not it's unrealistic completely depends on who you two are as people and the level of trust you are comfortable giving each other, among other factors like whether or not you can handle routine in a relationship.
    I had a relationship like that and I'd just go stay with him/he'd come stay with me on weekends and we'd do something fun, then spend the week apart.
    It'd be a bit expensive, though, and was always really sad when one of us couldn't make it that weekend.

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