Am i being paranoid?

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Ok so i've been with my girlfriend nearly 5 months but i can't help tinking shes cheating on me.

It all started when she meet up with this boy, who before me they had a 'crush' on each other. After i told her i didn't like the idea she didn't see him in the end.

Now till like a week ago i was completely fine until she lied to me about her seeing this boy again and they went to the cinema. So again in the evening i went to see her told her i knew that she had seen him, in which i gave her the choice, him or me. She reasurred me that i'm the only one for her, have me a little present, but i can't stop thinking that it won't stop her seeing him as there 'friends'. Let me just add before i went to talk to her about it they had arganged to meet up sunday.

Now instead i was going to see her sunday, but the day before she said can she see her in the evening as she is now going to see her best friend the day before as shes going on holiday. However from what i know she told me when i last saw her she is seeing her on saturday in the evening.

Ok so thats the story. She says i'm the only person she has fallen in love with and shes always been a love hater, from one of her friends this is true.

Am i really just being pararnoid or is something going on? She lies to me seeing him and i have to find out myself, she reasures me that i'm the only one but i can't help what my head makes me think.

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  • onlybarno
    13 years ago

    Back off and don't make her resent you, but monitor the situation. If she tells you she isn't seeing him and then does, even if she isn't cheating she's still lying. That's enough.

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  • Ty2
    13 years ago

    If he was just a friend she wouldn't have to lie about it.. And she definitely shouldn't be going to the movies with him especially without telling you . And it makes it worse that there was a "crush" going on at one point. She doesn't know what she wants. But she can't have both .

    That must be a terrible feeling u have when you find out she's been with him. So you really should confront her, don't sit back and let her do this to you. It's an unhealthy relationship going on now.

    And just remember, if she really loves you then there should be no need for her to lie about hanging out with another guy. It's hurtful and disrespecting your guys relationship!!

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  • harrypotterdork22
    13 years ago

    maybe she is. but you have to trust her. if she kept it a secret, thats a bad sign. talk to her more about it, in a calm way. maybe go out with a friend thats a girl alone and see how she feels. if she feels jealous then she might understand. hope it works out:)

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  • a_blonde_paradox
    13 years ago

    Cool guy or not, there is no reason for her to lie about being with someone if there's no ulterior motives.

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  • mariposa1
    13 years ago

    Try getting to know this guy a bit better. Maybe she is lying about seeing him because you told her not see him. When you tell someone they cant do something it makes them want to do it more.Maybe he is a cool guy.If you start hanging out together you wont have to debate what days you see eachother.

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  • a_blonde_paradox
    13 years ago

    well and FINE***** damn those typos.

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  • a_blonde_paradox
    13 years ago

    If she lied to you about seeing this guy who she claims is "just a friend", what other things do you think she could be (or has) lied about?

    If you are her "one true love" then she needs to prioritize YOU in front of some lame dude she claims is her friend. It's all well and find to have friends of the opposite sex, but there is a line you never cross.

    Considering you already have trust issues regarding on her lying about where she's been and who she's with, your relationship is already going downhill. There's no point in being in a relationship with someone you can't have 100% trust in, or someone who makes you paranoid. It's not fair to you, and its not fair to the relationship. You need to confront her and tell her how you feel (calmly) then listen to her and watch how she reacts. Choose your words carefully. Let her know that you're uncomfortable with her hanging around this guy and you don't appreciate being lied to. You have every right to tell her how you feel with her "friendship" especially when it's causing an imbalance with YOUR relationship.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I hate liars. If I were you I'd break up with her before it just gets worst. Imagine she's only lying on these little things. Wait till later. Full of surprises will come.

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  • sandrawilliams
    13 years ago

    Just keep an eye on it. Try not to ask too many questions or she will know you are on her case and cover her tracks. Best thing to do is to sit tight and see if more evidence comes up ;-)

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  • koifish
    13 years ago

    She could be cheating, or couldn't be. Sorry

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