Am i being mean or am i just normal?

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Ive been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 months now and i lost my virginity to him about 2months ago. Im a very very shy 25 year old girl with no sexual experinces at all. My boyfreind is 28 and is very experinced and confident. The problem is my boyfriend has said that he really wants me to get really naughty and dirty with him in bed as it would turn him on so much as im normally really shy and quiet. He knows that im quite nervous about this and said its absolutly fine and that he really loves me and will show and teach me things. He said he would wait forever until im ready to try things. But he often asks to try new things and he really wants me to give him oral. I have explained to him that i dont feel comfortable doing that yet and that im too shy to be dirty and naughty in bed. he keeps saying its fine and he will always wait unitil im ready but i can tell that he really really wants me to do these things, i really want to but i dont fell ready or comfortable yet. I just dont want to lose him or for him to get bored and go elsewhere which he said he would never do that. Am i just being mean and not giving him what he really wants? Or is it normal to not be ready to take the relationship further after only 3 months and plus me being extremely shy and embaressed also only loosing my virginity with him like a couple of months ago. I really dont want to loose this guy over me being a silly litte girl x

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  • deepthought33
    13 years ago

    As long as he is being loving, supportive and not pressuring you then I'd say you would do yourself some good stretching your comfort zone a little. Nothing wrong with being shy and taking things slow, but you got some catching up to do (lol) so have fun with it!

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  • SammyX
    11 years ago

    Not with this guy anymore anyway, was an idiot and broke my heart. With someone who actually cares about me now x

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  • SammyX
    11 years ago

    @Aleks85 No it wasn't. u just made fun of my situation

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  • Aleks85
    11 years ago

    Lol you fucked him but are not comfortable doing oral?

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    • SammyX
      11 years ago

      idiot!

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      • Aleks85
        11 years ago

        that was uncalled for.

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  • SassyFrassyLassie_old
    13 years ago

    I don't think you're being mean, but you could try a little harder to lose your inhibitions (they are a bit rigid for someone your age). Oral sex isn't "dirty", it's a normal part of a sexually active relationship. Educate yourself about sex more, there are a lot of books out there to help you. I think your boyfriend seems pretty considerate of your situation.

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  • aussiewolf
    13 years ago

    ^^^ what randomjelly said.

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    It's normal to be nervous but you will never find out what you like and don't like in relation to sex. Experimenting can sometimes greatly improve your sexual experience. When it comes to doing things for your partner I would suggest trying it at least once (such as the oral sex you mentioned). It can be a turn on for you seeing just how wild you can make your parter. Unless it makes you violently ill to perform oral sex then I see no reason why you shouldn't do it at least occasionally. Sex is about making sure the other person is enjoying themselves as well.

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