Am i being a bad person?

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I'm trying to find my first job, I don't have much experience but have volunteered in a caring environment, I want to eventually work in youth services such as a social worker. I've been trying to find work for months but not having work experience is really hurting my chances.
I've decided to apply for a job as a home care assistant, no previous experience is needed as full training is provided, working hours are extremely flexable to the extent that it's pretty much down to you, it's also experience and training in a caring environment which will be beneficial to my future plans.
Problem is, as horrible as it sounds I don't think I could do it, I don't think I can wash old people and help them go to the toilet, I just couldn't, I want to help people but I find that idea horrible. I'm also the kind of person who can't hide how I feel, If i'm eating food I don't like my face screws up without me realising it, I also find it impossible to hide laughter so my fear is that during a wash or helping them on the toilet my face will show my discomfort which will make an already degrading experience even worse for the the person i'm helping.
Furthermore i'm a guy, I can see a lot of people (especially older people who some but not all have an older fashioned view) being uncomfortable with a man being a care assistant.

So, has anyone else felt like this going into a similar situation? is it something that a lot of people going into carework think about? if you did worry about it how did it turn out? or am I being a judgmentle ass who shouldn't go for the job?

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  • zoffix
    9 years ago

    I think you'd get used to all that within the first couple of weeks, and after that you'd just enjoy all the benefits.

    I used to engrave funeral urns. At first, I found engraving the death dates and names really creepy, but very soon is just became a normal part of the job, as if making a drawing.

    Go for it!

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  • Someweirdmofo
    9 years ago

    No, you're not. I really wouldnt want to bathe old people. I dont want to help take them to the bathroom. Why? I dont know. I dont want to see wrinkly penises, or boobs. Or anything else wrinkly besides their arms, face, and calves. Call me a dick, I dont care.

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  • bleach_baby
    9 years ago

    I don't think you're a judgmental ass but you don't sound suited for the job. If you might laugh at or hurt old people's feelings you just shouldn't expose them to it - not because you're mean, but just because you need to know your limitations and appreciate the effect you might have on others. The same way you shouldn't teach if you hate kids cuz you might inadvertently screw their education up. I'd go work with learning-disabled kids or something instead.

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  • LosingMyMind92
    9 years ago

    I'm a carer and I found once you got to know the people you don't even think about it you just get on with it and can talk to them and it makes it more pleasant for both of you. Despite the not so nice things you have to do sometimes you do meet the loveliest people and most of them are very appreciative of what you do.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    I would guess that the unpleasant parts of that job are far outweighed by the good parts. We humans are very adaptable, and I think that you'd soon get over your discomfort.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Thanks, i hope so

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