Am i a sex addict?

I genuinely want to know because I have a feeling people are too nice to say it to my face... (yes this is completely serious)

I started kind of masturbating when I was young, I didn't know what I was doing,, but i didn't really think it was wrong. I then discovered straight porn when I was 12,,, I think this is where my sexual journey began. I would frequently watch videos and look at pictures and I thought it was interesting, and it turned me on. Then age 13 I started watching girl on girl stuff - when I started thinking I was bisexual.
Anyway when I was 13 I had sex for the first time - with a guy. And it felt cool, I enjoyed the feeling, even thought I wasn't attached to the guy (I think this is important because usually when teens lose their virginity I think they form a special bond with each other). This wasn't the case for me, all I wanted was the pleasure and that was it. After the first time it became a semi-regular thing at my school. Word got out that I did it and soon lots of guys were wanting the same thing, with me. I could sugar coat it and say I didn't do much, but i did. Oral and intercourse, with many guys. When I was 15 was when I started it with girls, when other girls were discovering the world of lady on lady stuff. I enjoyed it as much as I did guys. It created the same sort of feelings, but still I had no attachment to my partners, some of us stayed friends tho...
Throughout my youth, sex was the most prominent thing in my life. I even journalled about it, and me flipping through my old writing prompted me to write this. And no, I wasn't trashy or anything, I had good grades, respected my parents, teachers and my peers. on the outside I seemed like a regular teenager but in reality I was doing a bunch of freaky shit...
Now I'm 20 and I still have a lot of regular sex with lots of people. People my age and some middle age men. I'm very lucky I haven't contracted an STD or became pregnant. Only once have I actually had a real relationship, with a guy I actually cared a lot about. He was kind and we actually connected on a soul level. He was aware of some of the stuff I did but I was a little embarrassed to tell him everything in full, so I kept it a secret for the time. (I'm sure he knew more than I let on because people talk). I wouldn't say I was in love with him, but pretty damn close. We ended up breaking up but I'm not getting into that. I should mention that I never cheated on him or ever thought of doing so - I think that's kinda disgusting -
I know word gets around about me, I've lived in the same community pretty much my whole life and I'm not dumb.
People treat me well, I'm always kind to everybody, but sometimes I think about the things they say behind my back, calling me a whore or a slut, maybe I am, but I don't really think it matters. If I could change my adolescence I would, but there's really no point in dwelling on the past, because theres nothing I can do about it. The decisions I made were my decisions and I went into everything with enthusiasm. But I always question myself, am I an actual sex addict? I'm not sure if I fit the exact criteria, and I know nobody on this website can possibly know everything about me, but I told the whole story, so judging from everything I said,
Tell me, do you think I have a problem?

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Yes 13
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  • RoseIsabella

    13 is way too young to be having sex.

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    • Shiki

      And illegal xD

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      • How is it illegal??

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        • RoseIsabella

          Thirteen is under the age of consent.

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          • I'm not sure how it is where you are but in Canada 13 year olds can consent to people their age and 2 years older. don't spout things and judge me based off what I said, which has nothing to do with the question i asked

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    • That's literally not my question but thanks....?

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  • DADNSCAL

    I think you have to explore this yourself. If you find yourself taking risks for sex, or neglecting your job, you may have a problem.

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  • Mcochik

    I was 12 when I first had sex I was very advanced for my age I ended up sticking it in my girlfriends ass at that age a few times. (Not a joke and she was the one who did it) I’m now 25 I enjoy sex a lot but I don’t need to have it and I do masturbate a lot atleast every other day most of the time the smallest thing can turn me on then I need to rub a load out. I don’t think your a sex addict you just enjoy sex.
    -question for you though did you ever discover if you were bisexual my ex gf enjoyed girl on girl porn over regular porn and when drunk always says girls are hot and once let her friend who I think is bi eat her ass one night when they were drunk but my ex says she doesn’t like girls. 🤷‍♂️We still talk a little so I would like to get a better idea if she is

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    • I mean everyones sexuality is different, for me I think I just subconsciously knew I liked girls from a young age,,, I remember being in like grade 5 or 6 and having little crushes on girls, but I didn't really realize it until I became more of a sexual being and went thru puberty. Before that I just thought of it as a normal thing... Just like I also liked guys. I never second guessed myself. For your ex maybe she has repressed feelings or just doesn't have enough liking of women to actually be bi, but still enjoys having sex with them. It's more common than people think... Hell I've fucked some of them. I personally don't really believe in labeling sexualities because they're changing a lot. I believe if you like that person's personality and like the look of their body, have at it. Just get consent and don't be creepy haha

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      • Mcochik

        Yea that makes sense thank you for the response I think she just thinks girls are hot and enjoys looking at their bodies lol. And maybe enjoys hooking up from time to time. if you don’t mind me asking do you like your ass getting eatin? Or enjoy eating other girls asses I just think it’s so hot when girls do. Thought I would ask lol

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  • bandit12

    Nothing wrong with liking sex. It's only becomes a problem if it negatively impacts on your job, relationships,social life etc.

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  • d0esnormalmatter

    Absolutely positively not. Why the hell is this a question? Fuck you can't like sex a lot without thinking something is wrong nowadays.

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  • Tripodrod

    You are fine. You just really love sex. We all do but some are to concerned about what society thinks of them. Use protection or regular check ups with your Doctor just to keep YOU healthy so you may continue to do what you love to do. Enjoy my friend. Be happy.

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  • whynotnow

    I agree with Nikclaire

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  • xxLucifer

    The thing is though that it's hard to tell with the information you gave. Are you going out of your way to hook up with someone? Do you only have sex with people you find attractive or are you having sex with anyone who offers? How often is it that you have sex? How long can you go without sex?

    I don't actually expect you to answer those questions. If you think you have a problem then go talk to your doctor. Hypersexuality is treatable and their are medications you can take if your doctor thinks you have a problem. If you don't want to take medications then try talking to a therapist.

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  • Nikclaire

    It sounds to me like you just enjoy sex. For something to be considered an addiction would require continued behavior despite negative consequences. It doesn't sound like you've had any and it doesn't sound like you have shame or anything.

    I think it's fine. Some people are just more sexual than others.

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  • randypete

    I was a 13-year-old boy when I had my first sex

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