Am i a lesbian

I'm actually panicking. This is like a conspiracy about myself. Anyway when I was younger, like nine or so, I used to 'borrow' my mother's fashion catalogues and open it at the underwear section and stare at the women in it, like the shape of their bodies and their boobs. It kind of 'entertained' my eyes? There was a woman in an advert near our house and I stared at the cleavage when I went past like a little creep, but I just thought that her boobs were beautiful and amazing. I accidentally made a teacher uncomfortable doing that. And when I was 10, I used to draw women and obsess over the shape of their bodies, and draw boobs again. I just loved imagining them. At twelve, when playing games, you had the option of customising the character's body, and I would feel excited to customise women and see their bodies with or without clothes. I know this sounds super perverted, but this is like a compilation of all bad things rolled into one. I like being near females and the kind of vibe being around them, just pleasant and gentle, I like their faces and how they care about others. I prefer talking to them and watching them.
With men, I can't really look at their bodies and feel the same fascination. Sometimes their voices can be attractive though, or their character. I think I liked a guy before, a lot, but maybe part of it was because I expected to have a crush at least once so I forced it- but I have felt attracted to men before, definitely.
I can't imagine myself in a relationship with a woman though. I crave intimacy and would like to share a bed with a girl or feel her warmth, which is pretty normal as a straight girl. Women fascinate me though. I really like their voices and their energy. I kissed my friend when I was twelve, and told myself that it wasn't lesbo because it was practice, and it just felt weird and gross. I am a virgin as I have promised to wait until marriage and am planning to, so I don't know what any of that would be like in detail.
Anyway guys please tell me if I am straight or not I just need help. If I am, I just want to face it and deal with it. I have to marry a man for my family regardless, so I need to face whatever I am.

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  • SkullsNRoses

    Bi-curious in a homophobic environment.

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  • dirk

    Advice - don't wait until you're married to have sex for the first time. Try guys, try girls, see what works for you before you potentially make a huge mistake.

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  • Linloo

    Im female and divorced now. When I was around 8 my friend she was 9 talked me into getting naked after school at her house before her mom or dad and brother got home. She'd get the Sears and JC Penny's catalogs out and we'd look at boys girls men and women in their underwear and giggle and be silly. It would excite me and she would get excited to. We would touch ourselves after awhile and rub on the comforter or one of her little pillows. This would happen maybe three times a week. One day we almost got caught by her dad. He didn't see us because we got dressed quickly and I ran into her bathroom. But he acted curious and questioned my friend Patsy. About a week later we started doing it again and on the second or third day her mom came home early and quietly snuck in and caught us. I was so embarrassed and scared she would tell my parents but she said she wouldn't and that aslong as we didn't share it with anyone else she wouldn't either. She told my friend that t wasn't right to do that but it was normal to explore and feel curious and to feel good. When we were alone at my friends house and her mom was home we could go in my friends room and play and she didn't mind. It excited me knowing her mom knew what we were doing and could hear her walking down hallway by Patsy's room. I fantasized about her coming in and watching and maybe joining in but I know it would have been wrong. I was curious how she maybe looked and smelled. I mentioned it one day to Patsy and she went and got a couple pairs of her momns panties for us to smell as we played. It was exciting but made me feel so strange and guilty for a day or so then I'd be excited to do it again.

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  • how can you be attracted in a competitive way? What is her theory?

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  • Diaperdean

    It sounds like you're bi curious. I'm a male and I was Bi curious for years and I had to leave my wife and literally go out and sow my wild oats just to find out that God made us male and female for a reason. Today I am a happily married man married to a beautiful happily married woman.

    What you are experiencing is perfectly normal. I guess my prayer for you today is that you find the man that makes you feel like the beautiful lady that you are so that you don't have to go through the things that I went through.

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    • Did you experiment?

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    • momgetthecamera

      You left your wife and got married to her again? That's wild. Was she ok with you sowing your oats?

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  • RoseIsabella

    Maybe you're bisexual?

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  • sissycakes

    maybe you like women to see what you are up against or maybe you like women because they seem very personable.

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  • CDmale4fem

    FIRST OFF - DONT be so quick to put yourself in a labeled box. Who cares. I know that probably 99.99% of us on here dont know you, will probably never meet uou. You talk about womens breasts, i am a bi-curious crossdressing male. I have thought what it would be interesting to have real boo s lol. But if you really need to know if you are lesbian, bi, or straight if you have a best female friend that you might could talk to about your thoughts and see if she would be willing to help you explore. When i did yrs ago i started it off with a few good stiff drinks. Bacardi and coke if i remember. Anyway if you have a very good friend you can talk to or you might just end up holding it n until you are ready to talk abou to it. And last, dont be afraid to just do what makes you feel good.

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    • can't do anything until marriage bro. thinking i will just say im straight and forget about it so i can live a normal life

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      • Bazinga

        You can't forget about it. All you can do is fantasize about women when you have sex with your husband. DON'T DO THIS. Quiet desparation will make you and your husband miserable, and your family completely toxic.

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        • I'm not desperate because I filter out sexual thoughts and by habit don't get them very much. It took effort but it doesn't bother me now. My family isn't toxic and would still love me if I didn't marry a man, but I think some of them would be disappointed, and I am definitely expected to have children. I'm just trying to stay in line with what people before me did because I think it's right. I just wanted to know what I really felt.

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          • Bazinga

            Of course you are not desperate; filtering works fine if you are single. If you marry a man, filtering will not work anymore. You will become desperate and your life will be ruined.

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            • I guess you're right about the filtering. But I'm attracted to men so it will be okay. And when you love someone, they become special to you, so I will be fine. It's like when women who like men are married don't want to be with other guys just because they're straight. When you love someone, properly, they are definitely different, so it should solve it.

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      • CDmale4fem

        I have done what has been called " putge" to get rid of anyhing related to, in my case crossdressing. I have read of others dking it to help them "get past" or to help them like you said "live a normal life." These days just what the hell is normal. I bet if you ask 10 people their idea of normal, i bet you get 8-9 different answers. Something imprinted in your thoughts is not as easy to walk away from.

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