Am i a lesbian?

I think deep down you're a lesbian but you've been taught that you should only be in a serious committed relationship with the opposite sex so that's what you choose to do to kind of "please" society.

The only person you should be pleasing is yourself. Don't listen to any religious nutcase who tells you doing what makes you happy is a "sin". Your life, Your rules.

Follow your heart.

That whole picturing yourself with a man for marriage, is what society tries to brainwash you into believing. You said it yourself, you want to have sex with a girl, you have kissed more girls than boys and you want to be in a relationship with a girl. Trust your feelings and forget what people think, follow your heart.
im a gay man and i pictured my future of me having a wife and kids for the longest time because i thought thats what im supposed to do but my heart wanted a mans arms around me, not a womans and i knew i was trying to be someone i wasnt. just hang in there, you will figure things out.

Your bi hun

I would say get with a woman who understands and then after the experience you can make up your mind if you prefer women over men or equal.

It's basically the definition of bi. Why the confusion? It's just a stupid label

Im a guy and going through the same thing

Well most people say it's a sin to be homosexual or transgender.

Leviticus contains two well known statements about homosexual activity:

You shall not lie with a male as with a woman; it is an abomination. (Leviticus 18:22)

If a man lies with a male as with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination; they shall surely be put to death; their blood is upon them. (Leviticus 20:13)

This is not to say that homosexual desire is the only thing that God did not originally intend. All of our desires have been distorted by sin. But Paul does describe both lesbian and male homosexual behaviour as “unnatural.” Some have argued this refers to what is natural to the people themselves, so that what is in view is heterosexual people engaging in homosexual activity and thereby going against their “natural” orientation. According to this view, Paul is not condemning all homosexual behaviour, but only that which goes against the person’s own sexual inclinations.

For transgender people

A woman is not to wear male clothing, and a man is not to put on a woman's garment, for everyone who does these things is detestable to the LORD.

This really is hard for people like me to accept. Especially if you have severe dysphoria.

All I'm saying is most people don't agree with You is because most people are Christian. This is what they believe in. I'm not Christian I'm just trying to explain why it's hard for you to express your feelings.

I will not vote because you're not any of the available options. You're lesbian. :)

It might just be because being married to a man is more traditional (and traditionally accepted by society) that you want to end up with a man. You should try not to let that influence you though. You have the advantage of being attracted to two genders so you shouldn't limit yourself now.

You say "think" and "want"...
Have you had sex with both men and women? Have you had a relationship with one, or the other? Only way to find out is to try both. Tho you are probably just bi.

The question is, what sort of people are you sexually attracted to?

From what you say, you sound very young, and it also sounds like you don't have any sexual experience at all. I notice you talk about "thinking", but you say nothing about "feeling", and that makes me wonder if you might even be unsure what sexual attraction and arousal feels like.

I think amg1028 is right: the image in your head of you as half of a "normal" heterosexual couple is the result of cultural conditioning. You've been told this is "normal" in many ways since you were an infant, but now there's a conflict between this image and what you're feeling. It is possible that your attraction to other girls is just a phase, and you'll come to find guys more attractive. It is also possible that you'll never feel sexually attracted to any man. And it's possible that you'll eventually find both men and women sexually attractive.

None of those things are wrong. It would be wrong and not very smart to try to deny your feelings and urges, and attempt to force yourself to be something you are not.

Give yourself time to sort out your own feelings and desires. There's no need to slap a label on yourself. Many people want to believe that human sexuality is an either-or thing, but it's way more fluid and complicated than that.

Labels ARE stupid! Have sex with anyone you choose and don't regret it! As a porn friend of mine says, "It's just sex!"