Am i a bad person?

You're not doing anyone any favors.
Best advice: stay away and don't repeat the same mistake.

It's his dicison you did nothing wrong

You = Home wrecker.
He/she = Dirty cheat.

You're a douche for going through with it but they're a bigger douche because it's them that betrayed the trust of their partner putting their child through the risk of family break up.

"I let them take the lead"

Sorry, but that doesn't exonerate you.

But you're not a home wrecker, that still all falls on the person who slept with you. You just did a bad thing by sleeping with him.

Look, it doesn't matter if you are a man or woman - if you sleep with someone who is already in a relationship married or just dating, you're not the reason why their relationship falls a part, it the person who is in the relationship that's to blame.

But you, as someone who is aware of their relationship prior to you sleeping with them, are doing just as much bad as the person who's cheating.

Oh damn, after i posted my first comment i saw your poll results. So, im commenting again to try to make you feel better. I think a lot of people are just upset because theyre putting themselves in the wifeys position, and most people prolly would be pissed at a girl who her husband cheated on them with. I see people trying to fight the girl over it even.. like.. wtf? Why? Its stupid. Why are you fighting? Lets step back and look at what youre fighting over. Oh. A guy that doesnt love you. Hes not worth a fight. And sometimes they never tell the person theyre in a relationship. And really, youre single. So youre not a cheating asshole. He is. You can do whatever. His ass should love his wife enough to not hurt her like that. And you said he doesnt? Then he shouldnt fucking be with her. Good lesson to teach the kid. Go ahead and stick it out with someone you dont want to be with, and knowingly kill them inside constsntly. Because you know what? People can fucking tell when you dont act the same to them. And it hurts. So fucking bad. Id rather have my kid raised by to loving people who go for their happiness (and still love the kid fucking obviously) than two people who dont like eachother and fight and stay with people they dont wanna be with and put the whole house in emotional pain and stress daily. Thats not a good thing to teach your kid. Its sad how many people do it. I feel sorry for his wife, but not because of you. If he wasnt cheating on her with you, what the fuck makes anyone think he wouldnt cheat on her with someone else? He is the problem. A cheater is a cheater and you just cant fix that by taking the person they cheat on their spouse with. THEY ARE STILL A CHEATER. THEY ARE STILL THE PROBLEM. You are not. You just got involved with a cheater.

I dont think youre exactly in fault here. Personally, if i was with someone and there was a girl who purposly went for men in a relationship, id be kinda pissed at her. But, i also decided long ago that if i am cheated on, i wont really be mad at the girl, but the guy. Because his ass shouldve loved me enough not to stray or we shouldnt be together. And we wouldnt be anymore. And as for the girl, shes not my problem, and hell, she did me a sort of favour even. Now i know that i could do better than that guy. Now i know that he wasnt the one.

I wouldn't say you're a bad person. Just a person who did a stupid and bad thing. As long as you don't continue doing it, you'll be able to redeeme yourself.

homewrecker... leave them and end all contact. that child will go through a hell of a life because they will inevitably be caught up in your selfish acts... if you really think you can't be without that sick bastard then at least have the decency to tell the wife what's up so she can get some sick cash out of their divorce.

Avoid until they are divorced... I was in a similar situation as you, they would tell me how awful their spouse treated them and how scared they are to file divorce when really they just wanted us both! So the only way you would know for sure he actually wants you and wasn't happy with her is if he truly divorces her, ask to see papers and everything!