Am i a bad person?

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I'm currently having this crisis whether I believe I'm a self-hater since I've been called one because I haven't dated any of my own race. I mostly fantasize of men of a specific ethnicity but I've found all other ethnicities attractive but rarely do I ever find one in mine attractive.

To be honest, I've never really identified with my race and I actually believe there's no such thing as "race". Like were all human beings with different features. I don't really fall into any stereotypes and admittedly it is kinda annoying when someone I'm around acts in a stereotypical manner. Still, if they treated me nice then I'll treat them nice and we can be friends.

I don't have a problem with anyone and I think everyone should have equal rights and act how they want and blah blah blah. I don't know why I'm not really attracted to my own ethnicity; I definitely have my preferences of what I like physical and usually my own don't match up to it. It is probably more likely concerning my social circle, interests, and such that I would be together with someone the ethnicity I'm most attracted to. Though, IF I were to meet anyone of any race (including own) and I was attracted to them, I would date them.

And I don't believe I have a fetish because I want to treat my partner as a human being. Not a black, white, asian, latino sex toy.

So, am I still a self hater?

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    All the other stuff aside, I'm honestly curious; how can you "believe there's no such thing as "race""? It is a scientific FACT! It is not an opinion, or a suggestion or even a belief; IT IS A SCIENTIFIC FACT.

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    • imtoweirdforyoutounderstand
      10 years ago

      this is correct but morals are nore important

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        Actually, by the laws of time and space they are non existant on any scale of importance.

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      • thegypsysailor
        10 years ago

        To who? Certainly not the legal system. Certainly not most governments or police agencies. Certainly not to those hypocrites that call themselves "god fearing" people, whatever religion they purport to follow.
        Perhaps you are the one moral person on earth; can we make you king of all?

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    I am probably the worst person you'll ever speak to.

    But don't tell anyone because I want it all to be a surprise.

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  • bamanthehippy
    10 years ago

    My bf isn't attracted to black girls because he sees them as loud and obnoxious. I don't believe in race, just inherited features. I've dated whites, blacks, and a Spanish guy but people just notice that I date black guys and call me a whore. I find that offensive and racist. The white guys I dated were racists, the Spanish guy just wasn't in the cards, one black guy was an abusive ass, but the one I'm with is sent from heaven. I had people ask why u date black guys if one abused me and date raped me but I'm not going to blame a whole group of people just because they have a similar skin tone. If we were to do that then we may as well kill everyone. You're perfectly normal. Keep dating humans and not "races". :)

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  • Paradiddle
    10 years ago

    I don't think you're a self-hater. You have your values and maybe the people you hang around don't share the same ones as you do. Its exactly the same as me which unfortunately limits both the people I can befriend or just feel comfortable with. I have my own personal preference in mates but if I met someone of my own who was great and I was attracted to them, I'd date them too and I have. There have been several raging IIN stories on here about uptight and unrealistic people posting a huge rant about how people should stay within their race but no, if you like someone, you like someone and everyone has preferences. Trust me, its as if I typed this story myself.

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