Am i a bad mother

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I am a single mother divorced for 2 years with 3 children a son and 2 girls I love all 3 of them but lately I've had some deep feelings about my middle child I love her but she has a uncontrollable issue with crying before the divorce she did it at age 2 but I just assumed it was because she was young she is extremely clingy and never listens to me she crys when I say she is bored or her pants r not up all the way its gotten extremely bad with her age im starting to feel like I want her to live with her dad and just raise my son and youngest daughter I cant stand her crying all the time and constantly wanting to be the center of attention she wont seem to learn anything I teach her like pulling her pants up or drinking out of a big girl cup iv taken her to check for mental problems but they say she is fine idk if im bad for wanting to just let her dad raise her or not but I feel like my life would be simple if she was with him I know im horrible for wanting to give up on her but I cant help my feelings I need some advice if I should let her father handle her or if there is something I can do to fix this and she was crying uncontrollably before her younger sister was born.

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  • noid
    10 years ago

    Try another mental health provider. It sounds like early anxiety/depression issues. Does either of those run in your family? Or maybe just childhood separation anxiety. How old is she? A good therapist should be able to help her and help you know how to deal with her better too.

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  • Acerbic
    10 years ago

    This is something that's swept under the rug a lot of times, but it happens more often than you'd think. A lot of mothers just get so overwhelmed that they do have thoughts like this on occasion.

    I don't think they'res anything wrong with your daughter- it seems like typical toddler behavior to me, especially considering that she's been checked out by a professional and is normal.
    It sounds like you're just really stressed out and need some help. Children are very sensitive to their parents being stressed and they react to that.

    Is the father actively involved? Do you have relatives or friends who could help you out and give you a break now and then? Sometimes that's all it takes. Relieving a little bit of pressure now and then can really help strengthen parent/child relationships.

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  • Mersaphe
    10 years ago

    You know there is this thing called sentences. It might help.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    So let me get this straight, you made the conscious descision to have 3 children, failed to raise one of them corectly and allowed her to become a clingy cry baby, and now that she hasn't magically lived up to your standards you want to throw her at her father because you just have your hands full with the 3 kids YOU made? She's how old? Seriously, who's fault do you think it is that she is the way she is? Who raised her? Who's responsibility is (or was) it to make sure she is brought up correctly and learns things correctly? Yes, you're a bad mother.

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  • Avant-Garde
    10 years ago

    Don't put that kid on medication. That's getting of a problem the easy way. Not only that but, pharmaceutical medications always cause more harm than good. Why further saddle your child with more unnecessary issues? Take her to a child therapist, one that specialises in children going through divorce.

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  • highrider
    10 years ago

    Talk to the doc and see if he can prescribe her something to help her calm down. Like xanax

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