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I have read books and things where people meet and never think about going out and then they suddenly realise their love for eachother. However every guy I meet I always think to myself, is he boyfriend material.
Is it normal? Define normal. It's pretty common, but I definitely don't think it's healthy. People should learn to appreciate their time as singles to better appreciate subsequent relationships. But what can you do?
I don't know. When I read books featuring love, I don't think about whether greasy Joey, working at the garage with his pompadour, will make a good mate. Or, us riding Into the sunset on his motorcycle as Rockabilly music plays in the background.
I don't really look at anyone much like that anymore these days and I'm happy and more at peace because of it. If I find the right person then great, but if not it's better to be alone than in bad company.
The other day this woman who is roughly my age was talking about how she doesn't want to be alone, and I've never felt so happy to be myself. We have many of the same personal issues, but how we each deal with those issues is entirely different from one another.
Perhaps it is normal, I'm not a girl so I don't know. But as a guy, it seems to be putting the cart way before the horse. When you first meet someone, other than their looks and a very superficial impression, what do you really know about them? After a couple of dozen hours together, you might possibly have scratched the surface deeply enough to pose your question to yourself, but honestly, most people are more complex than that, aren't they?
I know that, I am not superficial. I would date someone for their personality. But I just can't stop the thought coming into my head XD