Always felt weird

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I've always felt weird about being with someone, I've never actually been with anyone. Thinking about sex and kissing makes me feel weird and tense up. Even though I want to one day, I want to grow up and have kids. But even being physically close to guys is hard for me. What do I do? If I'm attracted to them it's easier. But if I'm on a date and I don't like the guy it's like ahh. Do people kiss on the first date ? What if I don't want too?

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Do only what is comfortable for YOU. There are no rules about kissing or more on a first date. Always go on a date with a taxi phone number on your phone and enough money to pay for it. Don't let yourself get boxed into doing ANYTHING you don't want to.

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  • TrustMeImLying
    8 years ago

    If you dont want to kiss on the first date then dont kiss. Never feel pressured to do anything unless you want to. Simple as that. I'm sure there are lots of women who don't kiss until like 3+ dates.

    If it takes a while for you to be intimate with someone then maybe let the guy know that. If he has sincere intentions he will appreciate the honesty, respect your wishes and be patient. If he's in it just to bone you he'll probably let you be. Sounds like a win-win to me.

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  • Aries
    8 years ago

    If you don't want to have sex right away or even kiss on a first date , that's your right! set some guidelines with these dates :) personally I don't kiss until I have been on a few dates at least and then get to know them more . I wait until I really have the fuzzies for them to do so and not just to do it for the sake of kissing them because they are attractive . I might kiss someone on a first date if I have an amazing connection and the moment is appropriate but otherwise I don't and it's okay that you don't either ! take it slow , make it worth while , with the right person .

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    Perfectly normal to not want to kiss someone you don't like, but why are you going on dates with such people?

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    • Shoefish
      8 years ago

      Isn't the whole point of going on dates to find out if you like the person?

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      • (s)aint
        8 years ago

        I would not go on a date with a person I don´t know :P

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  • NathanScot
    8 years ago

    Hi,just go with your gut instincts.If you dont like sm1 you dont need to force yourself to do something you dont like.If you like someone and they like you back then nature will take care of the rest.

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  • chained_rage
    8 years ago

    You just need to get a different breed of guy. Try get one of those metrosexual types.

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  • Arm0se
    8 years ago

    I'm like this but a guy.

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    • Ellenna
      8 years ago

      I read that as her not liking the bloke before she went out with him, but you could well be right

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  • LuxM4G
    8 years ago

    It seems that you have developed a case of anxiety when socially interacting with the opposite sex. I'd say it's nothing but anxiety. You should be fine after having a couple of boyfriends and open yourself to be more social.

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