Almost had sex, pretending it did not happen to save friendship

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Last night I went to visit a friend of mine, we had too many drinks and randomly ended up in bed together. We were about to have sex when he decides to reveal me that he has a boyfriend. He still wanted to have sex but I refused and just went to sleep. The following morning he did not want me to leave without a discussion about what happened but I refused to listen, I think we are both trying to save our friendship and avoid awkwardness and I am pretending that everything is fine but I have actually had a crush on him for more than two years and I feel kind of pathetic. I don't know what to do now 'cause this feels like an awkward one night stand situation... except that I didn't get laid, and I care about him.

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  • Technicolor_Irons
    9 years ago

    You should have listened and spoke to him about it. Just because you have a conversation does not mean that you are consenting. In fact, since he's trying to have a conversation the morning after, I feel that since he's probably not under the influence anymore, he probably wanted to apologize or otherwise acknowledge his questionable behavior. :)

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  • sexysonofsam
    9 years ago

    Could you not see that he was Gay? what seems to be the problem here? Fuck him and get it out of your system!

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    • dinz
      9 years ago

      I don't think the OP did not reveal their gender unless I'm bloody blind or something.

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      • sexysonofsam
        9 years ago

        Are you blind? "when he decides to reveal to me that he has a boyfriend"!???

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 years ago

          We are both male.

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          • sexysonofsam
            9 years ago

            My humblest apologies to both the yourself and the previous person. Did not see that one coming. OOps, what a phenomenal blunder on my part!Again my humblest apologies if I offended anybody...

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  • CheyChey
    9 years ago

    Your "friend" still wanted to have sex after he had told you he has a boyfriend? What type of person does he take you for, he obviously doesn't respect you on that level or maybe he was really just horny at that moment but either way if I were you I would really think long and hard if I wanted to keep that type of person in my life unless of course you're into that sort of degrading & casually sleeping with people in relationships kind of thing.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      For what he told me, I think that his boyfriend would have been ok with that. He is a very kind person and a good friend, that's why I'm trying so hard not to mess things up.

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      • (s)aint
        9 years ago

        "He thinks that his boyfriend would have been ok with that"

        Eh ... thinks?

        Either way if you are crushing on him casual sex is not the way to go if he has someone else in his life.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 years ago

          I said that I think that his boyfriend would have been ok with that, based on what he told me. I can't really be a 100% sure because my mind wasn't clear at the time.

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