After a breakup, im devasted

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I was married to a woman for 8 years. We married too soon and we had a lot of bad moments but there were good ones too. We split but she is already with another guy she says is her soul mate. She says she loves me but was never "in love" with me. Her kids, now grown are close to me and she agrees I was a great father. I know I made some bad mistakes in our relationship, but how could she get involved again so quickly and put so many boundaries between us. She doesn't feel its appropriate for her to be alone with me at all lime its disloyal or something. She has known this guy a month and has changed a lot about herself for him. I feel I cn never love love again because the trust is gone. Is it normal to feel this way?

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  • reminiscent
    9 years ago

    I think what you are feeling is normal.
    All I can tell you is that time is a great healer.

    She might be in a honey moon faze with this guy...or really love him and he is perfect for her...idk since I dont have their point of view.

    You will find love again in time... she had someone for her...there is also someone for you out there ♡

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    • Fleetline
      9 years ago

      I feel like you are probably right. I'm just scared now. A lot of upheaval is going on in my life at once. She says she wants to be friends but keeps letting me down. Maybe Im hurting myself to even hope for that?

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      • reminiscent
        9 years ago

        Its going to be scary...life is full of ups and downs. All you can do is your best im sure it will get better :)

        Dont rely on her too much... you will only hurt yourself.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    My thoughts? She's been meeting this guy while with you. Move on from her. If she can move on so quickly then I don't think she's worth your time.

    You loved who you thought she was, not her. Time to find someone who is actually who you thought she was.

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    Stupid question.

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    Yes it is. If my the one I love did that to me, I'd be so devastated that I would never love again. I can understand how you feel even though I've never experienced it.

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  • pastor_of_muppets
    9 years ago

    I'm still baffled as to how limes got dragged into this and stigmatised as being disloyal.. if anything, I would say that guavas are not to be trusted

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    • reminiscent
      9 years ago

      If she were to bring a lime with her when she is with him alone it would be disloyal... its like when a guy puts a tie on a door....a girl brings a lime.

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      • thegypsysailor
        9 years ago

        Perhaps he meant bananas, they are rather more phallic than limes. Or maybe it wasn't a banana, in his pocket.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    If you think you will be punishing your ex, make her guilty or want you back, by your not being with another woman ever again, you are very, very wrong. The only person you will be punishing is yourself. She won't care dude, she's moved on.
    You need to do the same.
    If you want her to think she may have made a mistake, the ONLY way you are going to do that is by being really happy and successful.

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