Afraid of the first time...

no, i don't think there's anything wrong with you.

if he's a good man, he'll know how to treat you right.. he'll know not to shove it in there right away. obviously, any girl would be scared. he'll probably want to get his fingers in there a bit before you do the full-on sex. i had this at the beginning, too.

if he knows what he's doing, he won't expect you to do anything to him. he'll do things himself .. or to you ;) preferably to you.

Good work "sparrowfeed" you scared the hell out of her.
Dear Poster, make sure that he's a good guy and he's in for a real relationship not only sex. You must tell him you're still a virgin. Sex is lots of fun and there's nothing to worry about as long as it's safe (insist he uses a condom). If goes too fast it's very ok to ask him to take it slow, if you're not comfortable with any move the guy makes in bed it's very healthy to simply say " I'm not comfortable with this". Again sex is really lots of fun with the right people.
Good luck girl!

So ive told him im a virgin and he hasnt run away...yet! He said it doesnt bother him that im a virgin and that he will would wait for ever if thats what it takes for me to be ready, which is very sweet but then i cant help think that hes not going to wait judging by the dates weve had, he keeps saying he wants to find somwhere private for us to be as we live quite far apart and cant see each other everyday, but weve so far only had two dates and it just seems hes moving quite fast. He has said that if i didnt feel comfortable with anything he did then i could say and he would stop. But still ive constantly got the whole foreplay n sex thing on my mind as ive said before i have no experience at all, im think i would be ok about him touching me but then i would just be too nervous to return the favour plus i wouldnt no what the hell to do anyway lol. But the sex thing is still scarying me the most, most people have said once im in the situation it should just automatically come together but im not so sure, what do i do, how do i do it, noise, pain. I think maybe im just worrying about it too much and its making me worse. Any advice would help me so much, i dont want to make a fool out of myself n lose this guy because of my stupid shyness x

Thank you both for your comments, they helped me and made me feel less of a freak lol. Im just now waiting to pluck up the courage to tell him im a virgin, i just hope he doesnt run a mile once ive told him x

You will be All-right. But tell him how you feel

you have to be turned on, in the mood then you will know what to do trust me were all or most of us are afraid of are first time.
love ya
Gavin,

YOU need to figure out what YOU want for YOU. Do you want to lose your virginity? Do you want this guy to be the one? Do you want a serious relationship with this guy? etc.....Maybe if you have a really good male friend, you could talk or discuss it with them, perhaps even do a little tutorial work together, not have sex, but maybe a little "show and tell" so you know what you're in for.....or if you can't do that, watch some porn to see how things work (although the stuff in porn is at a VERY advanced level, lol).....Do you drink? If so, have a few, it should relax you.....Bottom line, do what YOU want for YOU....stay a virgin until marriage if you like. Do you masturbate? If not, start right away. If you can't enjoy "yourself", you'll never know how to enjoy anybody else....If you're afraid sex will hurt, just know that it will, but a guy that cares will be gentle if you let him know what's going on. As a guy I can only tell what I've seen from the women in my life, and that is that MOST women do NOT stay with the guy they lose their virginity too, just a fact of life...So don't make too big a thing out of it, OK :-)

The key thing in a relationship is communication. If he's moving to fast u gotta let him know. If he said he would wait then tell him. It sounds like he really likes u but u gotta talk to make progress. And as for the sex thing it's not a big deal. Sex is so overrated, and this is coming from a guy btw. When the time comes u will feel that magical spark, and it will work out. You will know when it comes. And please dnt do anything till u know he's then 1, cause once u lose it, it's gone and u will feel bad about it. It hurts to lose something for nothing, I know from experience.
Good luck :)

awwwww.... i think its awesome you have waited. too much stress is put on having sex. its really overrated. good luck. :)

if you tell him your a virgin and he runs hes a waste of your time, i say buy a vibrator and explore yourself, no one knows you better than you!