Advice: a famous guy is using me for sex?

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ok so basically this happened. This guy YouTuber who is my age (senior in high school) is really cute so I dmed him on Instagram. He replied and got my snap, and then he started to play dirty games with me, and I played along. The truth is I really do think he is cute, but I don’t really like sexting because I know he is using his fame to take advantage of me. I know he does this with some of his fans (I connected with one of them) but definitely not all (there’s so many thirsty girls on his instagram that he just ignores). I don’t know if I should feel lucky that he chose me and wants to talk with me, or if I should feel degraded because he is taking advantage of me. Of course, since he lives far away and he’s pretty famous, I don’t expect the relationship to go anywhere. The thing is, it’s always fun in the moment but afterwards I feel terrible because I’m being used. So what do you guys think? Is he right/wrong and what should I do? Please comment if you have more to write than the multiple choice answer!

Note: I know the obvious answer would be that he is a terrible person and I should cut off the relationship, but I’m really attracted to him and to be honest I don’t get that much attention from hot guys so if feels nice to know that he wants me for something. Plus, sometimes I actually do want to mess around with him, and I want to have him there as an option. There’s just always this feeling in the back of my head that makes me feel bad because he is using me.

Keep doing it if it’s fun, you’re lucky that he wants you over other girls even if it’s just for sex	4
He’s a piece of shit for using his fame to take advantage of girls. Break off the connection.	8
Just use him for sex back lol	6

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Mammal-lover

4 years ago

See the problem is you dont enjoy it. If you enjoyed it you wouldnt feel shame or feel used so dnd the relationship. Besides fame is pointless anyways

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  wow thank you so much. Your comment was simple but honestly I never thought about it before. I like him a lot but unfortunately sexting alone just doesn’t do it for me. I now realize that I probably feel used because I don’t fully enjoy it! Like when it’s actually physical I do enjoy it and I don’t feel used. Thank you so much!
  
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  - Mammal-lover
    
    4 years ago
    
    Yea absoloutly! I'm glad you were able to understand the point I was trying to make! The key to happiness in relationships in these regards is find someone were you font feel used and dirty. Unless that's what you want of course. Doing something sexual should feel natural and comfortable and if it's not then it's time to make adjustments or move on.
    
    I know life isnt a Disney movie but theres no reason you cant live a fairy tale with a happy ending. Theres no reason at all. Your perfect someone is out there. You just gotta trudge through that mud!
    
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Fugazi,again

4 years ago

At least you're his age. I wouldn't trust a lot of those internet celebrities around younger kids

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RoseIsabella

4 years ago

As far as I'm concerned the question is not how should you feel, but how do you feel! Feelings just are not something you need to conform to popular opinion, but rather feelings just are.

I think you should step away from this situation, and try to get in touch with your actual feelings instead of focusing on what you think other people outside of yourself believe you should feel.

Here's a little hint from old Rosie, I don't think we should put people up on pedestals, especially not YouTube celebrities.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  thank you so much. Don’t worry I’m not putting him on a pedestal! I truly like him for his personality and such. Thanks for the advice on taking a step back. I was so caught up in everything that I wasn’t really focusing on what is best for me. We’ve chosen to just be friends :)
  
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bigbudchonga

4 years ago

How is he a piece of shit? He's trying to sext with you; you're perfectly capable of making up your mind on whether to engage with him or not.

You're "using" him for his fame just like he's "using" you for sex.

The guy is famous, the guy knows he can attract women due to that fact. Either go along with him on it or don't, it's pretty simple. There's no reason to be bitchy and "team up" with someone to mess around with him just because you're attracted to his fame and now feel bad that you've had a sexual relationship with him for what you probably deep down think is a base and crass reason, hence why you feel used.

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LloydAsher

4 years ago

Is this oniesion? I'm not spell checking the name mainly out of spite of that piece of shit.

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- RoseIsabella
  
  4 years ago
  
  That guy is a massive piece of shit!
  
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- SunSnow
  
  4 years ago
  
  Lol... Why u even thought about him... U just insulted Jake Paul and family
  
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- [Old Memory]
  
  4 years ago
  
  No, that dude is like 34, not a senior in Highschool.
  
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  it’s not him
  
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d0esnormalmatter

4 years ago

I hate the term "use for sex"

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[Old Memory]

4 years ago

You serious? Right, I'll be the one to say it since this community seems to have seriously lost it's balls since my time away.

No, he is not "using his fame" against you, YOU contacted him. Just because you contacted some famous person and they aren't all of a sudden in love with you and is treating you like every other girl that is chasing him for his looks and fame does not mean "HE" initiated the contact, that's all on you. You are not in a relationship with this boy so he owes you nothing and he is free to flirt with anyone he wants. Just because he's "famous" does not all of a sudden mean any attempts to flirt is "taking advantage".

You are using him for his looks as you are sexually attracted to him by your own admission of calling him "hot", so don't act like he's wrong for doing something similar to you.

No, this isn't going to amount to anything. The relationship isn't going to go anywhere because it isn't in any way a relationship to begin with. From what you've said alone, he is not the asshole here, you are.

Get a grip of yourself. He owes you nothing and you will most likely get nothing from him. You're just a thirsty fan like the rest of 'em and you'll get nothing like the rest of 'em.

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Anonymous Post Author

4 years ago

Thanks for everyone who is concerned about me! To be honest, I’m not so worried about nudes with him because his reputation is honestly much more important than mine, and he doesn’t have access to any of my contacts or anything. I don’t feel used by him anymore because he started doing this thing where he made it clear that he really wanted to please me. Since sexting doesn’t really get me off, however, we chose to just be friends from now on :).

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FromTheSouthCreepyGuy

4 years ago

It cant hurt i guess but dont send nudes with your face in them. That can come back to haunt you. If you send them make sure you crop your face out.

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- hosa
  
  4 years ago
  
  Really wat are the odds that someone in real life would find out. nude pics are hidden buried deep in the Internet along with a gazillion other nude girls.
  ...just being realistic
  
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  - FromTheSouthCreepyGuy
    
    4 years ago
    
    Because if you and the person you sent the pics to have a falling out he can send them to people you know or do something fucked up.
    
    He could put captions on them like "i love black cocks" and post that on facebook and tag her for all her friends to see
    
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    - hosa
      
      4 years ago
      
      Remember, no real relationship is persued. This is not an issue.
      
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      - FromTheSouthCreepyGuy
        
        4 years ago
        
        It is an issue. I've seen it happen myself. All of a sudden everyone is passing the pictures around at school.
        
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        hosa
        
        4 years ago
        
        only if the guy wants to intentionally harm her.
        which is not only an asshole move, but also dumb because he will get cut off from more pics.
        
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Joniemason

4 years ago

I need a huge cock in me yes im a bisexual man if you want my number inbox me

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CDmale4fem

4 years ago

"A person can only do to you what you allow them to do."

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Aethylfritha

4 years ago

I really cant give advice in this case. I think you know deep down what is right for you.

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ellnell

4 years ago

Is it onision?

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- SunSnow
  
  4 years ago
  
  YouTube fame means he could be a random prankster freak they are retarded.
  
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  - Anonymous Post Author
    
    4 years ago
    
    yeah he’s not at all as big as onision. He’s actually a great person though and creates quality content, not those type of youtubers haha
    
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bbrown95

4 years ago

If it weren't for the senior in high school part, I would think it was Onision.

Personally, I'd cut ties with him. If it feels wrong and makes you feel bad afterwards, it's not worth it, and it's not worth just being used. Follow your gut.

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LornaMae

4 years ago

Damn! Now YouTubers have groupies? I feel so old. Thanks a lot.

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Bazinga

4 years ago

You're a lucky girl. You have a Friend With Benefits that is far away. Just don't let him get your real name, your school name, or your address.

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- Boojum
  
  4 years ago
  
  Hopefully, it goes without saying that neither should she ever allow her face to be seen.
  
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  - Bazinga
    
    4 years ago
    
    Good point, google image matching algorithms are very good these days.
    
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hosa

4 years ago

if u could go back in time and contact him without giving away your real name
That Would Be Great.
everything goes free beyond this exception

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hosa

4 years ago

Im not choosing any of the options.. Do u know y? Because ur forgetting 1 critical thing..its all virtual isnt it, ur not really touching each other. Dont u watch porn already? Wats the difference? I don't see wats the harm in sharing nude pics. Aslong as u know its not going anywhere.

I know, I know, ima philosophical genius.

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Advice: a famous guy is using me for sex?