Admiring other guys and wondering if that makes me gay

As other people said no one is 100%% straight or gay. Perhaps what you are wanting from guys is a sense of male bonding and are taking that to a different level. Perhaps you had problems with you father or male friends when you were younger? (I'm a psych major and can see that as a possible indicator, just a guess) If you decide that you lean towards being straight you might want to just have guy friends and nothing more because girls generally don't like guys who like guys (even though that's a big double standard) Just suggestions

See a therapist!!!!!!!

Admire but don't touch I use alot to safeguard myself when I admire either sex: The most natural thing for human beings is to see the beauty in other human beings like oneself. it is only when we act out our admiring for some one in the hope we make and become friends. Then admiring the other needs to be questioned somewhat but not greatly out of resepct for the one> I am sure many married men and women admire the beauty in the eithe their same sex or the opposite: danger here is that if they don't talk it through jealousy creeps in possibily leading to difficulties in their marrieage

Most of the Western gays have this false black/white idea about sexuality and totally forget what it means to be a sexual continuum. It means that there are myriads of sexual identities not just gay, bi or str8.

Just because you have sex with a guy, doesn't mean you are gay. Men, in many places of the world, have sex with animals. Does that make them something?

I have a feeling that the death of your twin brother has something to do with your problem as well. This shows in male-bonding part. Identical twins usually can not imagine a life without each other. They love each other to death. You might be bisexual, gay or str8. The only way to determine is for you to fix your growth problem. You did not grow normally the way you should have. Once you come out of the pre-pubscent age and enter the adult age (mentally), you wouldn't know your true sexual identity.

For right now, don't feel bad about your specific situation. This is not making you less of a man. In a platonic way, men need men and women need women. Same-sex partners are essential for growth. You learn to be men from men (and learn to be women from women). I am gay and it is hard for me to find a guy who is interested in only cuddle and closeness.

Why bother with a label. Suck a cock if you want and enjoy it. I wish we could meet and I could show you a real cock on a good man.

If you were actually gay, you'd know it.

I'm no therapist but I think you'll either suck a dick or you wont. Straight guys like myself never question their sexual preference. We think about sex with women pretty much all day long. We still remember the great asses from high school, Straight guys have a T&A catalog in their head. We crushed on ugly female teachers when good looking ones werent available. If you did none of the above, u may be gay or an alien.

There's nothing wrong with being gay. You want a relationship that's not only about sex you want more. I'm the dame way I want someone who i can just be around and not have to worry about the whole sex thing.

Seems to me that you are gay - you have no interest in women & have had multiple homosexual encounters - and that you are ambivalent about that, and from there have difficulties forming relationships. I don't think you have fully accepted your sexual orientation and if you haven't then of course you can't proceed much further. Thats just my impression.

I think counseling around your sexuality would be a good place to start

Wow, reading your story is a lot like looking at myself. I have many of the same feelings. I have not actually taken part in any homosexual activities with other men, though I have gotten off on visuals of other men. For me, which may or may not help, I believe that I am so conscious of my own body, I am a little overweight, I do not feel that I am inferior to the typical male image. Thus I find it hard to connect with other men for this reason, I have very few guy friends, but I also cannot have a sexual relationship with women because of how I feel about myself.
I wish I knew what sexuality I am, I am open to both, but neither attracts me more.
At this point I am hoping to fall in love with a person, male or female, rather then a sex.

ur a gay player hold the name proud and high

Actually no man is fully straight(some are less some are more depending on their genes etc. same for females) even if they show "hatred" towards gay ppl (which is usually unconscious guilt and fear),

since we live in countries where the types of religions don't leave much options(doesnt really matters if u believe or not) to be picky , we are raised in that manner so gay ppl look unnatural and straight the only rights ones.
So how did u end up so confused?
It has to do with your very early years,something u saw or told (none really remembers those stuff, but they crawl in ur subconscious mind for the rest of ur life) have marked u,and made u like that, 1-5 first years of ur life even if u dont remember they are the most critical years and in those years the rest personality/u is built.
In ur case, the picture is blur since u have that fear which complicates things further.

Some things made u lean towards boys now,u r considered "gay", which is ok, but there might be the possibility that you could like girls more than boys if u overcame the obstacles and tried.
And this is coming from a straight guy.

Hey buddy,

It seems like you have some issues to work out and a qualified expert should be able to help you get to the bottom of this. I would seek out a good sex therapist.

Be careful though, ther

That sounds... very complicated
You could be gay, and just want different things than most gay guys want. You could just be a rare type. And the identical twin thing could have something to do with it... I would suggest you go talk to a doctor... anyone who is a professional in this feild. You should do some research too
hope you find what you're looking for, and good luck =]

uve done sexual stuff with dudes, so yeah ur gay