Addicted to sex (female)

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So, here's the situation:

I'm a female, aged 22. I concider my sexual orientation to be pansexual with preferences towards anything that carries a penis.

Having a high libido is great, feeling like shit and crying when your boyfriend doesn't feel like having sex with you isn't great however.

In my current relationship it isn't uncommon that we have sex about 2-3 times a day, which totally works for me. I could obviously have more but i gotta be realistic as well.

This said, the guy OBVIOUSLY enjoys having sex with me since we DO have it a lot and i love it.
The problem occours whenever he DOESN'T feel like it ( We make do with he helping me masturbate, but i still feel like crap)

To me, there is no such thing as "Not in the mood" In absolutely worst case i'm near puking but i still would allow a guy to put it in me, even if i'm not in a position to paricipate that much ...

The second issue would be that i can't "suck it up" and act as if i'm fine, which would be my prefered choice if i could. Because i do know that i'm ungrateful for what i get and the poor guy doesn't deserve me bashing him.I'm terrible in hiding my emotions and everyone that hangs out with me on a regular basis knows exactly how i feel since there's no possible way for me to hide it.

Yesterday was the first time in our relationship that he wasn't in the mood to have sex with me FOR THAT WHOLE DAY. The situation solved itself when i whined a bit and then took matters into my own hands, getting him horny and eventually resulting in me getting penis ANYWAY.

So my boyfriend obviously does his best to keep up with me and isn't exactly low on sexdrive either.

What i'm looking for here is creative advices to what the heck i can do to NOT act like a spoiled crying child when i dont get penis? (( Getting high relaxes me but it is hardly a solution to turn to drugs whenever i get horny))

Worth to mention is that he encourrages me to hook up with other females with or without him, but at the moment i'm not too interested in doing anyone but him, especially not since we are in the beginning of our relationship (3 months)

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  • disthing
    10 years ago

    ANYTHING that carries a penis?

    Fucking hell.

    Lock up your dogs, bats, ducks, rats, monkeys, horses, whales, lions and barnacles (yes barnacles)!

    You have a very high sex drive, he has a fairly normal sex drive. There isn't really anything you can do to avoid this fact, and how you deal with your sexual frustration is entirely up to you. If you act like a child throwing a tantrum, that's your choice. If you are unable to 'suck it up', then that's unfortunate.

    My only advice is to excuse yourself and masturbate in the bathroom when you need a release from the frustration. Take matters into your own hands, literally. Try to avoid pressuring your guy into sex, it's unfair and shows a lack of respect for his feelings.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Hahahahahaha! <3

      Well ...after i wrote this thread i've tried to keep myself under control. And talked to him about how i would like to improve myself.

      It turned out that he really, really loves it when i'm horny and tries to pressure him AND act like a child ( He has stated his liking of this before, but i needed to make sure he isn't annoyed by it)

      So ... in this situation it appears as if i have issues, i should learn how to control them- But he loves it. (( Then it is obviously something that can put a strain on things in the future when he isn't this new to having a Nympho girlfriend)

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  • TwoThumbs
    10 years ago

    1. Buy a vibrator

    2. Jesus H. Christ.

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    • (s)aint
      10 years ago

      1. I have plenty.

      2. Jesus is my FwB.

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        1. Do you have a favourite colour?

        2. Is he big?

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        • (s)aint
          10 years ago

          1. I don't care about colors, preferably not black though.

          2. Oh yes.

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          • [Old Memory]
            10 years ago

            1. What about a glass one?

            2. Good for you.

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  • JanePm
    10 years ago

    Once I masturbated but needed something dirty in me, I wanted a penis So bad, I pushed an empty beer bottle in me that a guy had drunk.

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    • (s)aint
      10 years ago

      I doubt i could fit that :C

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    I've said it before, and I'll say it again. Your bf is one lucky bastard.
    I'd trade places with him any day.

    You sound exactly the way I am. I've always wished (and hoped and dreamed and serached for and hunted for and... oh, so many things) for someone like me (like the way you describe yourself).

    The thing is. I know what it's like, and, no matter how great the other person is, that sexual frustration eats away at the relationship. And sometimes it can get too much, and you might do the thing you promised yourself you'd never do.

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    • (s)aint
      10 years ago

      It isn't sexual frustration, though it's me being scared if scaring him away by being so needy and clingy.

      We do talk a lot just some days ago we had a "Watch porn and don't leave bed" morning and afternoon. He confessed to having a hard time having repeated intercourses in a row unless we had porn in the background, i obviously couldn't care less about that so this will definately happen more often.

      It ought to be more difficult for a guy to find a girl that put up with a high sexdrive.

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        If a girl is pressured to orgasm a lot of times and it's not happening, the guy needs to do the right things to help her there. It's supposed to be kinda part of the fun.

        Same as if a guy is pressured to ejaculate a lot of times. The girl needs to do the right things to help him there. And that doesn't just mean 'harder and faster', it means something a lot deeper than that.

        If you're putting pressure on him, it'll be easier for him to go soft. Thing is, if he can really feel free with you, then you might be surprised how hard he can get and how often and how regularly. Us guys are kind of treated a bit like sex machines, but we're not (no matter how much we might brag that we are).

        If a guy is really really relaxed and comfortable and happy in his body, and if he is with a gorgeous girl who he can feel really free with, then that's when a guy can start exploring being multi-orgasmic. Then you won't need porn, and you won't even need 'quiet' moments when he's soft and not inside you.

        Yes, you do a lot of adventurous things, and you're hot and he's hot, and yadda yadda yadda. But trust me, us guys can do so much more when we ignore the pressure and just get down to business.

        When I don't give a fuck, that's how I give the best fuck.

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        • (s)aint
          10 years ago

          Oh, well that depends on what goes on! If he would be allowed to just lay back and slack i fear there would be NO end to his boners and ejaculations.

          And yeah, i have obviously noticed that whining isn't the best way. That one time he denied me i eventually rolled over and masturbated which was when i found out that it seems like i can get him in the mood like THAT without even touching him.
          Simply leaving him be but allowing him to listen and watch.

          So yeah, no pressure is totally the thing!

          It's only a bit tricky for me to deal with during the days when he's at work ( Though exhausting for him) And he gets home and is usually sore in arms and what not. But weekends, or like today when he's to come over ... Yarp i doub there will be any issue at all.

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          • [Old Memory]
            10 years ago

            If the trouble only is that giving it good tires your bf out, there's another recommendation I can make.

            Rather than putting his whole body behind his thrusting, he can try pelvic thrusts that only use movement in the bottom of the pelvis. Kind of sharp stabs that only work from below the hips.

            I've been looking for a video of the technique, but I can't find it. I went to a class that taught sexual skills and they demonstrated it there.

            It really reduces the energy a guy needs to put in and it gets really amazing reactions from the girl. It just kind of insanely turns up the volume on the sensation it gives to a girl.

            Not being funny, but I wish I could demonstrate for you.

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            • (s)aint
              10 years ago

              Lol, we have solved the situation when we came up with a way that not only spare his poor body but also keeps me satisfied for fucking hours.

              I'm one happy Nympho!

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  • (s)aint
    10 years ago

    1. We don't live together so it's kinda unavoidable that we get to ba apart from one another, especially since he has a job and i have two cats to tend for.

    2. Haha! Once again,i'll think long and hard about it before i allow recording again. I try my hardest to not regret the things that i have done but it isn't quite alright with me to leave something like that avaliable to all to see. I have had sex at clubs without issues at all, quite the fun experience! But itäs still something about recording that gives me bad vibes. (As well as i'm turned on by it)

    3. Since he isn't up for me sexing other men i wont. I however have told him that when we have been together for a bit longer i'll find us a girl to play with. I might even fancy her enough to make her my second lover. We will see.

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    • NotStrangeBird
      10 years ago

      1. Well I guess you have limited time during your day for lovin'. You gotta get it while you can.

      2.Yes, filming your sex sessions is a huge liability. Like I said, keep it private and locked down.

      3. Being a bird, I've made my share of mating calls and many fall on deaf ears. I'm really not into migrating to wherever you are anyway. Your feller is a lucky man.

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  • (s)aint
    10 years ago

    1. Well, i guess it's why he loves it when i acts up ;P

    2. Hm, valid point! Then again i'd deem it unfair if i was the only one who had access to it! wouldnt it?

    3. Well, a dildo isn't a penis! it feels different you know xD

    4. I know less than nothing about you. I adore nice talks but if you were serious about me poking you if i get single it's a horrible basis to start a friendship of. And i deem it disgusting :P

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    • NotStrangeBird
      10 years ago

      1. I guess as long as you give the feller some time alone. It could get old. Use with discretion.

      2. You could share it with him/show bits of it around to friends, gossipers, etc.

      3. 3 options I laid out. 1 you did. He might be down with that. Me too...

      4. See last answer and read the subtext. I'm reading yours on this one.

      Hmmmm.

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  • NotStrangeBird
    10 years ago

    Make movies of you & your man doing it and watch them when he's not in the mood? Use them to get him in the mood?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Hahahaha! The issue on hand isn't that i can't get him in the mood, because i can.

      But i also think that he has the right to deny me sex without me acting up and trying to change his mind.

      had i been a man i would have been AWFUL for not taking no for an answer xD

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      • NotStrangeBird
        10 years ago

        Yes, OK.

        1. Stop acting up & being an ass. Yes you seem to have an unusually sex drive for a female.
        2. Make those movies.
        3. watch them while you attack your girl stuff daily. Get a zucchini or vibrator or something. Keep the pressure released.
        4. Call me if you ever break up.

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        • (s)aint
          10 years ago

          1. I like being an ass! It gets me spanked/whipped and tied up :c

          2. I already have regrets from previous movies with an old FwB >>

          3. Watching porn isn't satisfying the -need of having a penis inside of me- urge.

          4. The chances that you'd be of any interest to me is very, very low- Unless you are a woman i'm allowed to slut about with other women.

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          • NotStrangeBird
            10 years ago

            1. you never said anything about that.

            2. Put it on your phone or something. Put a password on it in case you lose the phone. Nevermind, I guess you're way beyond porn anyway.

            3. Well it's a dildo, another feller, or you let your man recuperate.

            4. It takes a special sort to be attracted to me. And maybe we could still talk...

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