Abortion: men's take.

I know this is a hot button issue and I promise I am not writing about this to start a fight online. I am genuinely curious, what do men really think about abortion. Something that irks me about abortion talk, whether you are on the right side of it or the left: is that no one mentions men in it at all. It's always it's a women's body and her choice. but what about the would be father of the baby. Why do men have little say in these things and do they really care? I really wanted to know.

I think it should be a women's choice 113
I support it 52
I am against it 64
I wish men had more say in it 52
Don't know, Don't care 13
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Comments ( 63 )
  • dom180

    I think men do have a say in it through their ability to talk to the woman. Maybe you could argue that that say isn't big enough, or should for formalised in law. However, since it is the woman's body I think it can *only* be her final decision. I know that's far from a perfect solution, but the only other solution I can see opens up the possibility of forced abortions which makes me want to be sick.

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  • RoseIsabella

    There's only one guaranteed way to prevent an unwanted pregnancy.

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    • anti-hero

      Anal?

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      • RoseIsabella

        Hahaha!!!

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        • Jessica6969

          Pull out of her butt and blow off in her mouth? That's a 100% success, but is it normal lmao!!!

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  • Sog

    I believe abortion is a barbaric practice that does have many moral implications. It often makes me uncomfortable to see these moral arguments brushed aside so casually by the left.

    I say this as a moderate, not one of those screaming lunatics who stands in front of abortion clinics and beats people over the head with posters of bloody aborted fetuses, threatening to them that their god will come down and smite all who take part in it.

    Abortion is currently legal, but I find that the typical arguments in opposition to an abortion ban are weak. I do think this is an issue that the courts should revisit eventually, though I don't think it is a particularly pressing issue.

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    • (s)aint

      I'm for abortion. I've been on birth controls since I was sixteen (22 now) Never gotten pregnant even though I do have a very active sex life.
      If I would get pregnant today even though I do what I can to avoid this I believe that I'm in my fullest right to abort the foetus, rather than trying to raise it whilst being an unemployed party/swinger animal. Far too many people become parents without being fit for the job which results in a bunch of mistreated, emotionally unstable kids.

      Neither would I handle an adoption since I would have no idea what would happen to a child of MY genes when I wasn't around. My dislike of adoption is utterly selfish though, I rather not ruin my body and my psyche for nine months just to give it away ...

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      • rulerofthenight

        I have never understood why in the midst of all of these abortion arguments neither side seems to think of adoption. it seems to me like the it is the best choice between the two. So you don't want to keep the baby, why not give it to someone who wants it. and with a lot of adoption these days, you can and do get to pick the parents of who will get your baby.The argument against Adoption is that it is too hard to give up the baby but Abortion isn't a cake walk. It's just as hard.

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        • Sog

          I agree. I think there should be a focus now on making adoption a more social acceptable choice for women. I get the impression that society views adoption as "shameful", "selfish", or "giving up".

          If attitudes changed in favor of adoption, I think attitudes would also change against abortion.

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          • rulerofthenight

            You make a good point. Would be very nice to see an adoption advocacy.

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        • (s)aint

          As I said, I'm selfish. I wont even try to deny this. IF I ever carry a baby for nine month It should be all mine and I would not want to give it up.

          I'm also scared of giving birth.

          At the same time I LOVE sex and I'm trying to protect myself as good as I can with pills, that instantly makes me way better than other sluts that doesn't even do this.

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          • rulerofthenight

            L.O.L. I appreciate your honesty and I applauder you for using the pill and stacking up on protection. A condom alone just doesn't do it.

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            • (s)aint

              I'm only using the pill. I have sex between 2-3 times a day (In his company) and in my opinion it sort of ruins the feeling of intimacy a bit, something I rather have with my boyfriend.

              Most people I know that's in a relationship are on the pill or similar birth controls, but when my mum was young she used both.

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  • Eas1206

    I have no doubt this will be an unpopular opinion, but I think the woman has every right to choose, and the man SHOULD have every right to walk away from the situation without being stuck paying hold support. No one should be forced in to anything.
    Is SHE DOESN'T want to be a parent, but HE does, there's nothing he can do to stop her from getting an abortion. On the flipsode however, if HE DOESN'T want to be a parent but SHE does, he's stuck paying for it for the next 18 years.
    Me and my girlfriend talked about what we would do if she got pregnant way back when we first hooked up... Seven years later we have a two year old girl that is the absolute light of our lives.

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  • It's fucked up, and I hate it.

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  • candybee

    "Women should have the right to choose, it's their bodies." This argument disgusts me. At what point does a fetus become human? What if you kill a fetus a millisecond before it "becomes human?" Just because a human is dependent on another human doesn't make him/her any less alive. Killing a fetus is murder. Also, there has been far too many cases where the baby could have survived out of the womb but the baby was killed anyway, how were these doctors not charged? Anyone who takes the time to contemplate abortion and research it knows the truth. By the way, pregnancy is 100% preventable, no one is forcing you to have sex.

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    • rulerofthenight

      I don't like that argument either. Because, the moment that egg is fertilized and embryo is created then... it really isn't their body anymore. it's the fetus, womb and what about the fact that half of that fetus is part of a man's DNA, half of it is his.

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  • thegypsysailor

    I believe it is a woman's right to do as she pleases with her body; piercing, tats or abortion. What's the difference? Not that I'm in favor of(or against)any of these things.

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    • candybee

      What about the baby's right to live?

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      • thegypsysailor

        It ain't a baby for quite a few months, but of course you know that, and you are just trying to start another abortion shit storm.

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        • candybee

          One day you'll realize how wrong you are.

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          • thegypsysailor

            By the time that day could come, I'll be dead.

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  • kelili

    The subject is sensitive indeed. I think that it is okay for the women to have the final choice and to make the final decision. It's easy for a man to say that he wants to keep the child but would he really care for the baby, help financially and be physically present throughout the child's life? Nothing is sure. So it's good that the mother decide.

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  • Darkoil

    It should be completely and solely up to the woman if she wants an abortion or not however if a man wants nothing to do with the child once it is born then that should also be acceptable.

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    • Sheppard

      Then she and the government shouldn't have any financial claims on the male either and we all know how that story goes.

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      • rulerofthenight

        I agree with you. my whole issue with this is that if the women decide to abort the baby the man has no say in it( legally anyways). but if she does keep it then.. he has to pay child support. Seems men are getting the short end of the stick as far as children are concerned.

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        • Sheppard

          You are correct.

          Men do get the short end of the stick in many ways in society, especially when a woman is involved.

          I'll probably never get married because of the unfairness from the court systems in the event of a divorce.

          It's insanity. A female can lie, cheat, do anything and the guy ends up paying her money every month while she's fucking other guys. If there's a kid, she gets the kid and he pays for it. The stupid guy has to pay alimony until she re-marries which of course she won't do until she's got some other sucker on the line who makes more money.

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    • Couman

      Exactly. The baby grows in the woman's body, so it's totally right and proper that she should have the final say about whether to keep it. But the long term consequences for potential father are also quite profound, so he too should have the option cancel his impending parenthood, albeit only as a legal fiction.

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    • Sheppard

      I disagree.

      We're talking about someone's life here and in the moment a defenseless unborn child.

      In almost no other case can another person claim termination on someone else.

      Only in rare cases where there's something tragically wrong with the other person or that person was deemed extremely harmful and unfit for society does termination of another acceptably happen.

      So what if person grows inside a woman? That doesn't mean much.
      Shouldn't give her the right to kill it at will.

      If she didn't want it she should of been smart enough to not get pregnant.

      Imagine some female that loves to kill babies so she gets pregnant on purpose then before giving birth she kills it intentionally and keeps doing it.

      So this woman can grow it in her stomach for 8 months then kill it or let someone else kill it for her and keep doing that?

      By what you wrote you're completely fine with that.

      I think that's short sighted and nuts.

      By your thinking why limit the termination before she gives birth?
      Why not allow the mother to kill her child anytime she wants at any age?
      She grew it in her stomach. She presumably fed it, raised it, took care of it.

      Why not let her or the father kill their own children at will?

      Have you ever had a pet that you raised in your own home?
      Do you think that gives you the right to kill it anytime you want?

      Sick.

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      • Agreed.

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      • Darkoil

        An early fetus up to about 20 weeks is not a child.

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        • candybee

          What if you abort the fetus after 19 weeks, 6 days, 23 hours, 59 minutes, and 59.999 seconds? Is it still ok to kill the baby then?

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          • Darkoil

            Yep.

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        • rulerofthenight

          20 weeks. That is 5 months old.

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          • Darkoil

            You can count, well done to you.

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  • rulerofthenight

    Time to wrap this Up. Thank you everyone for your input. I was online a few days ago before I made this post reading about how abortion affects some men and how even years after it has happened they still feel bad about it. I also learned that there was a court ruling that prevented men from having any legal claims to their unborn child.Which is kind of sad for those who wanted to keep their child or actually wants to be a good father and be involved in their children's lives.Like I mention in the post this wasn't an abortion is right or wrong and I really wanted to be about Men and their thoughts on it. Thank you to everyone who voted and your comments. I know have my answer and can set that curiosity to rest. :)

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals

    I support it because I'm anti-pro-life.

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  • I didn't vote because my opinion isn't on there. My opinion does not seem to be popular.
    I think abortion should have a 3 strike limit. The third time they should be mandatory sterilized. Exceptions can be made for things like rape, medical problems, and similar situations.
    I think this because if you fuck up that many times, you probably are not a fit person to have kids. There are too many bad parents in our society.
    I also think other certain people should be sterilized such as child molesters/abusers, and crack heads.
    I also support a $500 offer for anyone to be sterilized. All the tweakers would do it immeadately.

    Vote Bugs for President in 2020.

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    • rulerofthenight

      LMAO. I agree with you about the abortion limits. If you are having an abortion every year, you should get your tubes tied or something.

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      • Just have more anal sex.

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        • rulerofthenight

          LMAO That's what am talking about xD

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    • Please don't tell me you were the one who was that 1 child limit spammer not too long ago. I actually like your most of your other posts.

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      • No, that wasn't me.

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  • richardbturgid

    I am against it and believe that if it is their child they don't want aborted, they should have more say in it.

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  • I believe it ultimately the woman's choice. We as men can offer our opinion and point of view, but uktimately, the women control this.

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  • sega31098

    Personally against it, but I think it is a necessary evil.

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  • RomeoDeMontague

    We have so many ways of preventing a children I don't understand why it gets to this point. You also could kill the sperm before it becomes a fetus. Apparently no one heard of prevention and I think this is something we should teach to people. Unless having the child is going to kill the mother I dont understand why people want to encourage such stupidity. I mean it just shows how irresponsible and lazy people are. If you really don't want the kid do everything in your power to prevent the egg from being fertilized. Dont wait till it sprouted fucking legs! Especially dont wait till you only have a month left and say "Eh, fuck it I changed my mind. Gonna murder you little fucker" since at that point they really could just do a C section and put the kid up for adoption.

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    • rulerofthenight

      I absolutely agree with you. I feel that there is NO excuse for getting unplanned pregnancies in this day and age. There are soo many effective birth control methods and work great if they don't you can always combine the two to get 100% protection. Go on the pill and use a condom. No way a sperm is going to get through that and there is always the morning after pill. There is no excuse.

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      • thegypsysailor

        But if one's church does not allow the use of contraception, then you advocate abstinence? Yeah, like that will happen. Get a grip people.

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        • rulerofthenight

          Personally I think if someone wants to be abstinent they can. It's not something that we are incapable of. But I am not advocating for abstinence but rather better and more use of birth control.But that wasn't the point of this post I kind of wanted to see if there other people or men that wish men had more legal leeway. in things regarding children and their unborn baby.

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      • RomeoDeMontague

        Exactly.... but people are stupid and don't want to take responsibility for the shit they do. Its like killing the dog since you one day decide you don't want it. People have done that by the way.

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  • Sheppard

    I believe in supporting life.

    IF an abortion is to be done then it should be done as quickly as possible after the pregnancy happens when the life form isn't anywhere near human.

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