A true story ; my mum and me

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I am 23 years old I have never had a boyfriend and I'm shy and timid. I worry all the time.
I used to be bullied bad at school for not saying anything, I had a group of friends but I wasn't close with anyone only one girl who I am still in touch with to this day. I find it hard to open up... I have a tied down job which I love but it doesn't allow me to make friends through work like most jobs would.
I only just started going out to clubs when I was 21.. I'm not a party animal but my cousin took me and it's nice to get out now and again but honestly it's not my scene completely.
And I made a couple of friends through my brother husband and wife a couple of years older than me but we share the same interests and I go to their house sometimesor they come here. They also introduced me to there other friends.
I do struggle to make friends though.. and as for a boyfriend I feel bad about it everyday that I have never been with anyone. And it's not like im not interested but my mum seems to think I'm not.
I'm on a dating website but my mum keeps pressuring me into going on another one one she has picked.. and she said she is worried about me and it's not normal to sit in the house with your mum and dad all the time... okay so I'm not at the pub everynight like my sister... but I'm certainly not in every night. I go swimming, to the gym, art class, thinking of joining other classes.. I'm just trying to build my own confidence. Then maybe someone will come along.
My mum bothers me because she won't listen to me and she makes me feel so bad that I feel like I'm living my life wrong everyone I see goes to the pub has a big group of friends. I don't. It would be nice to know how to make friends but I don't know.
I feel I need to be someone else.
She's been like this since I was 21 now I'm worried I won't find anyone. I sit and worry. My sister said ignore her, do what you want and one day someone will come along when the time is right.

But I can tell Mum is in a right mood with me :( I hate my parents worrying about me. I don't know what I need to do, I really don't.

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  • hcysplihp
    6 years ago

    I don't think she's being fair to you, personally. There are more important things in life than relationships, so if you don't want to be with someone yet then you shouldn't have to listen to her. And if you do want a relationship, then just give it time. Don't try to rush it.

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  • JonathanOo
    6 years ago

    Parents will always worry. I'm in the same situation and it caused my parents to think I'm a homosexual. Its ridiculous but they think that people will just plop into your life and become your date. Or they act like you're the one rejecting them when its clearly not the case. I've come to the conclusion that it'll just take time. Some people get married early, others later. There is no formula on how many friends or relationships you'll have or if it's the right amount for your age

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      She gets so angry though. It's not like I'm not trying. I don't go out that much but there's nothing for me to do.

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      • JonathanOo
        6 years ago

        It just means she really worries and cares about you. Its fine to go out from time to time if you can. I work 60 or 70 hour weeks so it does make it difficult. I'd rather be at home and rest up when i can. Going out all the time is a drag:/

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          6 years ago

          I work 12 hour days. I do go out I went out on Sunday. I hate that she thinks I'm a failure. Or that I don't want anyone when I do.

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          • peculiar007
            6 years ago

            try not to worry, just tell someone you trust and/or someone she trusts and maybe one of them can explain this to your mother?

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  • Nastynate
    6 years ago

    Throw her a bone

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  • SmokeEverything
    6 years ago

    You work too much and try too hard to please others. Take some of the money you're making and take a greyhound somewhere. Feel some freedom.

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    I personally think your mom is being stupid and totally inappropriate with her pushy, nosy behavior regarding your love life. I think you're doing fine with yourself, and how you choose to expand your social life and circle. I don't think you should define yourself nor should anyone else define themselves by their relationship status. It's better to be alone, do what you like and enjoy yourself than to be in a relationship with the wrong person and be miserable. People, myself included, have a nasty habit of wasting so much time in bad relationships when they could be happily single and working on themselves. Also there are few things worse, and more dibilitating than desperation when it comes to trying to find the right person, or at least a nice decent person with whom to share your life. I commend you on your lack of desperation, recommend that you ignore your mum and continue to march to the beat of your own drum in your journey of life!

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