A home is a trap

A 9-5 job is a trap too.

Culturally it's a little different where I'm from. Women generally prepare the food but it's seen as by far the most important thing in life and they are much more important than the men because of it. It's also seen as a technical skill and a precursor to bringing everyone together (men achieve this too but when women bring people together it's for a happy purpose such as sharing a meal). It's a gift in every sense of the word.

To not be able to cook for my family would be like being an outcast.

"My mother was a housewife all her life and, even though she professed to be happy, I know she felt forced into the role because women were understood by her as second class citizens who had to do that because of their lowly status"

Actually that was only some women, it wasn't that bad. You only here about it the way you describe because now days there are idiots who believe everything they're told, so they/you are exploited bigtime. You probably still think there were no female doctors in the 60's.

derrrrrrp

I agree with howaminotmyself, that's very very sad. You have turned one of the greatest pleasures in life into a chore and horror.
I absolutely love doing anything I can for my lover, my best friend and my traveling companion. She must feel the same way, for she's always doing things I appreciate.
You have been completely brainwashed by the feminist movement and now two thirds of your life is gone, lady. Are you going to toss away the last third and continue living as a few radical feminists want you to? Time to grow up and find the pleasure in the things you do for those you love and allow them to show their love for you, in whatever way they can.

I feel the same way about cleaning, it's very uncomfortable to have someone else in the same room (especially a guy :/) as me when I am cleaning. My mother has never been a housewife though.

Thanks for the replies everyone. It is clear that this is an issue that some understand from experience and some simply have no idea what they are talking about! Messages from parents are drummed into children from the year dot via many methods such that responses become visceral and are beyond mere intellectualisation, as in this case. I even feel this stuff alone: if fast food was not so harmful, I would live on it as I hate preparing food even for myself, let alone others! This is despite the fact the family doctor was a woman and I saw many strong women earning well. As for being transgender, that's as weird to me as saying that a man who hates cars wants to be a woman!

Those who feel uncomfortable being watched cleaning etc have very good reason to feel that way. I lost work because of it: the news got around in the area that I was "nothing but a man's wife doing his cleaning" and so, despite a postgraduate education and qualifications up to the hilt, my business subsequently suffered from that perception by others to such a degree, that I had to cut my losses and leave that life. My ex husband needed me to work and in any case, neither of us saw why he should support me financially when I wasn't a mother. Fair's fair after all.

I also agree a 9-5 job is a trap. But at least a person is autonomous then and doesn't rely on anyone else for survival. Despite all the work my Mum did, she would have lost everything had my dad divorced her and that fear- even though I know rules are different these days- gets encoded in one's cells. Even today, it all depends upon court settlements and if one partner has a good lawyer, the other suffers. And what one partner has done in kind holds little water when the chips are down as I have seen in some divorce cases.

I don't see why people think this isn't normal. I hate being at home all the time too. I would be miserable if I never left the house. Staying at home all day is not living life.

My mom does absolutely everything that a traditional housewife is supposed to do. And she is happy with that, and feels that is what a wife is supposed to do. She loves helping others for nothing in return, and has passed down that wonderful trait to me. We find our joy in other people's happiness.

Maybe you're just trangender and want to be a man?

Continue on with your life as it is.