A guy has never given me an orgasm before

Totally normal. It will happen eventually but in the meantime don't pressure yourself and don't waste your time on anyone else who pressures you.

I was like you and one day I met someone who had the magic combo - he made me very comfortable AND he knew what he was doing in bed. I had told him I didn't enjoy oral sex and he said "can I do it to you anyway just for a bit because I really like it?". So I let him. The lack of pressure to enjoy it, plus the knowledge that he loved it made me orgasm after about 15 minutes. Prior to this my experiences with men were usually them trying to make me orgasm. It's hard to enjoy something for what it is when you know they are just waiting for you to orgasm. It makes you feel like you're on the clock.

Your specific journey will be different to mine but just giving my own experience. I was about 23 when this happened so you're doing just fine.

Please consider reading this:

https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1476762090/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=come+as+you+are&qid=1573980410&sr=8-1

From what you say, you seem to have (or at least had) a pretty positive attitude about sexuality and your body, which is great. But I suspect that, like most people, your understanding of female sexuality and sex in general has been warped by a lot of common misconceptions that research has found to be completely baseless.

I suspect that reading Emily Nagoski's book just might result in several "light-bulb moments", and by the time you finish it you'll probably feel a lot more positive about yourself. You might better understand what you need from a partner during sex in order to really enjoy it and why you need it, accept that you're perfectly normal and have the confidence to ask for what you need.

The guy who refused to listen to you when you told him what you wanted was an asshat: probably of the selfish, arrogant and fundamentally insecure variety. Many women have disappointing sex because they don't really know what they need and they fall into the trap of believing that if a guy really loved them, he'd understand that by some mysterious telepathic power and give it to them. Decent, emotionally mature, caring guys do their best to figure out what their partner likes most, but they're also sensible enough to know that their reading of the woman's responses to what he's doing just might be imperfect, and they're willing to take direction.

Something a hell of a lot of people don't understand is that only something like 25% of women are capable of consistently reaching orgasm through penetrative vaginal sex alone. (https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/all-about-sex/200903/the-most-important-sexual-statistic)

For the vast majority of women, the position of their clitoris relative to their vagina means that penis-thrusting in the vagina simply does not give their clitoris sufficient repetitive simulation to let them get to an orgasm.

It's entirely reasonable for you to think that good sex is sex that results in you reaching an orgasm. But if you believe that the only "real" sex is PIV sex, then the statistics say it's highly probable that your anatomy is going to result in you not getting much good sex.

Some PIV positions allow for more stimulation of the clitoris, and there are some relative motions that can increase this even more. But another inconvenient set of facts is that most women need their clitoris be repeatedly stimulated with varying degrees of pressure for anything up to twenty minutes before they reach orgasm, and there are a lot of men who don't know the moves, can't read the signs indicating what the woman is feeling (or can't be bothered to do so) and can't last nearly as long as that.

I understand what you say about how you masturbating during sex is something you find unsatisfactory, but you might find it interesting to get a guy's perspective on this.

If I feel a desperate need to come, I can masturbate and deal with that, so sex for me has always been mainly about doing whatever my partner enjoys most. I love the feeling of my penis being in a woman - although I'd rather just go without if a condom is needed for that - but a woman coming while we're having sex does things for me that are way deeper than the purely physical. Yes, I very much enjoy my own orgasm when it eventually comes, but the main pleasure of sex for me has always always been the sights, sounds and feelings of a woman reaching orgasm while we're having sex. My favourite position is cowgirl, and I've always loved watching my partner rub herself to orgasm while I'm in her and touching her in whatever way she most likes. A woman masturbating while we're having PIV sex - or before or after, for that matter - has never made me feel insecure or inadequate. What's mainly going through my head when she caresses her body and rubs her pussy until she makes herself come is that she's completely lost control of herself and abandoned herself to pleasure due to what I'm doing with her.

It's a facile truism that men think with their dicks when it comes to sex, but there's more than a degree of truth in that. Us guys do tend to be pretty penis-centric, and it is a pretty much mechanical process with us: stimulate the glans of a healthy young man with the right degree of pressure and at the right tempo for a couple of minutes and he will ejaculate. The female sexual response is much more complicated than that, and a huge part of what goes on when you have sex is what's happening between your ears.

Read Nagoski's book, and I bet you'll end up with a better understanding of the complicated dynamic between your brain and your body as well as learning some very interesting things about female physiology. I'd also bet that taking what she says on-board will make sex better for both you and your future partners.

Ask for licky licky. It's a lot easier to give a girl an orgasm through oral sex + fingers than it is through penetration, as you can more skillfully manipulate the clit and use your fingers too.

It's totally normal babe.

A guy gave me an orgasm for the first time when I was 11 I came then he got behind me and started doin me bent over the bed and he’s goin he said “I think somethings happening” and boom my mom walked in the door [im bent over my bed panties around my ankles gay porn blairing from the laptop] so that’s how she found out that I was bisexual even after that I didn’t admit to myself I was bi until I was 18

Try quitting masterbating. Short term it may suck and be frustrating but once you get really desperate from the deprivation, you'll likely get more sensitive and be able to orgasm with a partner.

This worked for me (as a guy) to make it easier and also for a girl that I'm seeing right now. The first time we met I could not get her to cum no matter what I did. She felt bad and so I suggested she take 2 weeks off using her dildo and then see what happened and bang, I fingered her to an O using the excat same stimulation as before. Of course, no guarantees, but this is my best idea and I've had lots of sex lol.

Thats why you break out the vibrating wand while yall are having sex.

Huh that's weird...when I was doin the whole being a boy thing that was a consistent approval for me. They consistently said I was giving them orgasms where other guys had failed to. Guess I'm ruining the hopes and dreams of women everywhere being all transgender and stuff now and not putting my dick in things.

What about a girl?