A friend died over 8 months ago and i still don't believe it.

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A very close friend of mine committed suicide about 8 months ago. When I first found out, I didn’t believe it. And I know denial was the first stage of grieving, but it DID NOT pass! Friends and family noticed that his death and strangely had zero effect on me, considering how close we were. After all this time, I still do not believe it, something tells me he is still alive, well, and happy. Even the funeral was open casket, so I saw it for my own eyes and I still don’t believe its possible. The only time I cried about it was at the funeral, for about 5 minutes., and I only cried because I thought it would look suspicious if I didn’t. (because at the time it was also under suspicion it might be murder. Witch was proven wrong later.) I just don’t get why I cant feel certain things. Am I numb? Will this eventually pass? Is this normal?

(one thing I should add, he was also my Ex boyfriend)

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  • stealinsugars
    13 years ago

    I believe you may be in shock. In certain situations your body prevents your brain from process information. That may have been the case in the weeks following your friends passing. Your mind did not allow those events to sink in and now you want to reject those events because they did not seem real.
    A trained therapist can help you work this out.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I'm sorry. ): But yeah I know it's weird thinking wow he's actually gone I'll never see him again. It's really surreal.

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  • alv1592
    13 years ago

    first of all, sorry for your loss. i understand that if you were close to him, it's hard to accept the fact that he's gone. but you will have to accept it. he's in a better place..just think of it that way. you'll see him again someday.

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    I'm so so sorry..what a horrible thing to happen. This is just how you cope. We all handle death differently. Talking with someone wouldn't be a bad idea. I hope things get easier for you soon!

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  • jenn
    13 years ago

    Don't listen to these jerks. I wish you all the best in your grieving process sweetie.

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  • jilian
    13 years ago

    My friend died in a rock climbing accident 3 years ago. It took me 2 years to accept that he was gone. I would have dreams where he was still alive and dreams that he had snuck off and was for some reason hidding from every one he knew. I think some people just take longer to accept deaths.

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  • vbmg152
    12 years ago

    My best friend killed himself 33 years ago in May and I'm still not over it completely! I still think about him & wonder what I could have done to help him! RIP Robert Long Jr.

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  • littlemsEMOtional
    13 years ago

    Oh and by the way don't blame your self. A certain prick at the top of the list is being just that...a prick.

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  • littlemsEMOtional
    13 years ago

    My goodness iam so sorry to start off. A family member of mine hung him self in his closet....on our shared birthday and I still expect to see him when his family comes to visit. I've accepted he is no longer here but my mind just wont hold the information for very long. You just have to face that u may never come to terms with it.

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  • 8Serene8
    13 years ago

    ^This.

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  • viper305
    13 years ago

    If you didn't break up with ;) maybe he'd still be around.

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