A friend being afraid to have a relationship with you?

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Well, I'll talk about something that is happening to me. I have a friend, we talk about anything every day, and it makes me happy. We flirt sometimes and she always asks me for affection when we're together. I already kissed her when we were in a 'cute' moment.

But she seems to be nervous about trying something with me because she feels insecure about opening her "heart" and then not working out with us. I was wondering if this is so normal.

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  • Jennifer21
    4 years ago

    Give her space and time. Don’t push her, just allow her to warm up to the relationship in her time.

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    • oceanthief
      4 years ago

      I understand that, but I'm afraid to wait too long for her and then she just says she doesn't want anything. It's selfish that thought, I know. But I'm kind of sad about that....

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  • ellnell
    4 years ago

    Don't push her.

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  • litelander8
    4 years ago

    She could be concerned for her heart. Or maybe she’s concerned for yours bc she doesn’t actually want to be with you. Just a suggestion.

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    • oceanthief
      4 years ago

      Yeah, I thought about that. But she always "plays games" with me and she flirts both personally and by message with me. I get confused.

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  • d0esnormalmatter
    4 years ago

    Yeah normal. This is what friends with benefits is for. Man! The false dichotomy of it's either relationship or no intimacy is really starting to bug me c'mon people.

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    • oceanthief
      4 years ago

      Yes, man. It is very complicated to understand people. It frustrates me so much. They could be simpler and more direct with what they want.

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  • ktreus
    4 years ago

    generally people are kinda afraid to "discover too much" about other people, specially when they are friends, discover things that can not only end the relationship but end the friendship they had before.

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  • lordofopinions
    4 years ago

    Quite often friends are hesitant about taking the relationship to the next level. It's almost like they don't know how to separate friendship from a relationship. Maybe she just wants to remain friends. The worst thing you could do is push the issue. Show affection and hope she will be ready at some point to go to the next level.

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    • oceanthief
      4 years ago

      Yeah. Maybe one of my fears is this, that she wants nothing and I'm willing to want something more. I won't force anything, but hopefully it will hit something.

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