A foul mouthed paranoid and schizophrenic mother

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Hi.
Argh, i hate to be a whiner but it's getting on my nerves.
my mother suffers from heavy delusions, she makes up stories about people who never existed, about things that never happened, and it has been almost 10 years..
my brother, he is young, she curses in front of him all the time, she is really foul mouthed ..
Okay, she is worst mother any woman could ever be.
We tried, but she doesn't want any psychologist's help, she thinks we'll abandon her in a mental institution, and it's getting realy tough now, it hard to stay in the same room with her. she gets hysterical about everything, flies in to rage when we rub off her stories or even try to get her to believe that all that she is talking is her imagination!!
I am dealing with this since i was in grade 6 and now I have graduated, but her illusions have only grown worse.
the holistic therapy approach is just crap(i talked to some people and conclusion was:it's sheer wastage of money)
what should I do to make my mum understand without offending her that she needs psychiatric help??? I have tried talkign but she gets angry and secludes herself, since dad died last year, she gets even more sentimental.
(it's weird, after my dad died, mum's condition has got better, i mean, earlier, 24/7 she acted paranoid but now, the tendencies appear at a slower pace..like she'd act really strange and hysterical once every day..it's painful to see her act like this, she knows there is something wrong with her, but i can't help her, ...and it will hurt her pride if i confront her about her condition but honestly, it is too intricate, i ll probably move out in a couple of months or soo.
My kid bro is small, just 12, she is damaging him..bad! real bad..the kid is so innocent, she has already ruined his 2 years, we can't take him away from her, but if he stays with her, he'll end up in a ditch, she is doing horrible things to his mind..i don't know what to do.

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  • Alyson
    11 years ago

    This is normal, well at least you aren't alone. My mom is freaking insane, bipolar, makes up stories and assumes everything as if everyone is out to get her. She cusses all the time. Also tried to help her. But, sometimes there's nothing you can do. You can't force it upon her. Just help your sibling by taking him out of the house to give them both a brake. I was alone in that situation and it was really fucked up. But your sibling doesn't have to be.

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    • spacemonkey
      11 years ago

      I am sorry know about your Mum Alyson. I am gonna do the usual, try and help and if nothing happens, yeah, it's awfully hurtful to see one's loving ones go down especially parents, but it's like now I am used to it, gaah, you call that damaged kid! A decade ain't a small time.
      Thanks Alyson.

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  • coolio75650932
    11 years ago

    ok seriously just have a suprise intervention or sonthing like that or just talk your bro with you and move out (visit her every once and a while to see if she is ok) and if she goes all spyco bitch and attacks you you must call the police for attacking child/children (also for refusing professional help)
    so yeah just try to move out with your bro (breaking her heart might make her realize what a bitch she has bean acting like towards you abd your brother) just please make sure all three of you find a way to live a normal life

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  • snafu
    11 years ago

    ask anyone one in a mental health ward, and they'll tell you that they should'nt be there, everyone else is potting against them ...........

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  • Rin✿
    11 years ago

    I don't think you can make her understand, she has to hit rock bottom...I believe my mother asked my dad to call the cops on her after a night of being chased around the block till morning thinking my dad was the devil trying to kill her.

    I would definitely try what Kitten and Thinkingaboutit said though, it can't hurt.

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    • spacemonkey
      11 years ago

      Actually, I have tried getting police interference but what I am scared about is, they will put my bro in to foster care or something because, my father died last year and technically i am a major but still I just graduated, so Financial status of someone just out of college can't guarantee kid's custody and he is too young. i can't take chances, it's more about the kid now than mum, we tried helping her but she doesn't want any help and it's not her, it's her delusions but dude she threatened she'll get a restraining order against me so i ll just shut up and watch her wither away into nothing.
      thanks for your reply

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      • Avant-Garde
        11 years ago

        If it got to that point, couldn't he go live with a capable relative?

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    Don't blame her as she can't help it. Are you absolutely sure that she has schizophrenia? If she does than it puts you at a higher risk of developing it. From what you list, she sounds like she has Paranoid Schizophrenia. You should try to read up on the condition to learn how to understand her better and to find a way to get her to seek proper medical attention.

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    • spacemonkey
      11 years ago

      Medical attention is what my headache is these days because i can't make her see a therapist/psychiatrist, i tried, no success. In fact, she got offended, threatened to lodge a complaint against me and said she'll try avail a restraining order against me. it's funny because she doesn't even recognise me anymore, it's like there are two of me, one is the evil one, another one-good one. Dude, she is living in two parallel realities. It's all so real for her, hurts to see her talk that way sometimes but again, i am just a lost voice now.
      thanks for your reply.

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      • Avant-Garde
        11 years ago

        You're welcome. It's strange how the law is in regards to health. If you're a minor, regardless if you're 17 and are fully capable, your rights can be denied to you. The last psychiatrist I had said that when a patient gets to a certain age, that their parents can no longer force them into taking medication. Doctors that don't work for mental health are different. They CAN threaten to put you away or force you to a hospital against your will. But with a adult, it's often different. For the most part, a adult can't be medically forced even if they aren't mentally "sound". Sometimes, they have to do something extreme to be sent to a hospital like a suicide attempt.

        A lot of the schizophrenia stories I've read were whether written by a doctor/the patients family or the patient themselves. The ones written by the aforementioned aren't as deep as the ones written by the patients themselves. The family's are usually either in denial or they blame things on the patient. True a patient can be in denial, but sometimes they are aware that something is wrong.

        http://schizophreniadiaries.com/

        http://www.experienceproject.com/groups/Have-A-Family-Member-With-Schizophrenia/34719

        Good Luck.

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  • thinkingaboutit
    11 years ago

    Well, you can report her to your local child protective services and take custody of the boy. This would probably be the best thing for him but awfully hard for you. Or you can let him enter foster care, which is always a gamble. Maybe you guys have relatives to take the boy in? You are so young. He is so young.

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    • spacemonkey
      11 years ago

      Child services are just another branch of trafficking in my country. thousands of kids go missing, i won't gamble in such a situation. foster parent thing is even more pathetic here. And relatives, lol, been quite a time since I saw them. i know i m young so is the boy, but no way i am putting trust in the crappy child services/foster care thing, dude i can't imagine the things they do to kids. Thanks for your answer.

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      • thinkingaboutit
        11 years ago

        I assumed you lived in some decent city. wow. that's tough. Okay, I can't think of anything better than keeping him out of the house as much as possible. I don't know how much money your family has, but get him into as many organized activities as possible. I'm talking guitar classes, soccer, hip hop dance, etc. Encourage him to spend time at the library and obviously make friends. There HAS to be some place he can go, that won't cost you too much. He can have a great future and loads of potential despite everything. Just get him focused on things other than his home life and 'hanging out'.

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  • Kitten33
    11 years ago

    Go to a hospital and ask to 302 her. If they decide she needs help after asking you questions, they'll give you a paper to take to the police. The police take her with an ambulance and she's stuck for 20 days. Worked every year for my mom.

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    • spacemonkey
      11 years ago

      Kitten33, it is not like I just want to get rid of my Mum somehow, I want to help her and my kid bro too.
      Thanks for the answer.

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