30yr old man with three kids living with new gf parents in her bedroom

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so, my ex whom i have three kids with... ages 6, 4 ,3 has a new gf. they have been together over a year now.... basically he was violent towards me she saw him beat me up one day... the day i caught them together and the court put a 2year restraining order in place. i dislike them both very much. shes only 22/23. they are both now living at her parents house, obviously in her room out of the way. he has lost his job and has no hope of getting his own place for the forseeable. i kinda want to know from people outside the box, wether they think their relationship will last.... i dont like this girl and yes ok its not really any of my business but the thins i have heard about her, make me not want her to have anything to do with my children. hes a monster too but for her too see him hurt me and stay with him is beyond me. so i want to know factors that will affect their relationship.... age im thinkin and housing, money... she works full time and i dont think they pay anything to her parents. im happy now im not with him however i just dont want him to be with her cos of what she has seen, id much rather he met someone else that didnt see that. hes a very difficult person, communication is not a strong point for him, you kind of have to do what he says and u cant have ur opinion and have a argument about things, hes controlling but because i dont see them or know anyone who knows them i cant see him being like this with her and so it is frustrating. like as horrible as it may sound i expected to hear he had hit her by now!! god knows he hit me around the 8 month mark well it started with a push!! any ideas or just a chat would be appreciated

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    Lady, this guy sounds like kind of a loser and his girlfriend can't be too bright to start a relationship with a man KNOWING that he has 3 kids he probably isn't paying child support for and KNOWING that he has no problem with beating up on women.

    I hate how people are sometimes so foolish as to believe that someone who was terrible to their past partner will treat them any differently. They may last a week or they may last forever. Some women are not mentally stable enough to realize "This man is mooching off of me and hitting me and I deserve better". Women who are victims of using and abusive boyfriends often believe that they deserve no better and it's a damned shame. She's probably "hopeless in love" and no doubt he will impregnate her too and give her more of a reason to tolerate his malarkey.

    Please, don't obsess over this guy. If he is out of your life, then keep him out and don't even bother with him. This situation has "DRAMA" written all over it and the last thing a single Mother with 3 young children needs is a drama-fest with her abusive ex and his idiot little girlfriend.

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    You should just stop thinkinh about them and hope for the best for your children. Turn the page and begin somthing new.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    EverYone thAt hAS 3 kiDs by 30 is fUcked iN thE hEad. Like SOOO fUckeD up thAt iF I cOuLd I'd GrAb ThIs KeYbOard aND BeAt YoU To dEaTH With It CaUsE ThAt'S WHaT YoOOouu DeseRvE.

    YOu SoNs oF bItCheS, yOOOooou pOoFtErSeSSSS.

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  • tint40
    11 years ago

    I've been in a similar situation- although it never escalated to him outright clocking me. You're hoping karma will intervene- trust me it will. It already has- look at his pathetic situation. You're thinking about this because you are still healing from it. Allow yourself this time to wonder- but don't dwell. Focus on the safety and well-being of yourself and those children. Put all your energy into getting full sole custody with no/supervised visitation. It's not an obsession- you've had a long-term relationship and children by this man so it's going to be awhile to forgive and forget. Now if you are still constantly thinking about this in 2 years, I would seek help on how to heal and move on. Good luck to you and your children.

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  • thanksforthefreecar
    11 years ago

    Quit thinking about him. He'll bring you down if you obsess over this loser.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Seriously you seem like the kind of person that needs proffesional help. This level of obsession is unhealty.

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  • Darkoil
    11 years ago

    He hit you around the 8 month mark yet you have 3 kids together? You, him and her all sound like the type of people that I would class as a waste of life.

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